I have lied to my girlfriend about something terrible. I recently confessed to it and to all the lies that led up to it. I had been talking to my ex girlfriend who I only see as a friend and only have ever seen as a friend after our breakup. My ex and I haven’t dated in 3 years and my ex is with someone else as I am as well. Early on in our relationship my girlfriend and I were on social media and she saw a picture of my ex and I, she questioned me about who it was and I told her it was a friend. It was beyond stupid of me to lie about that and to lie about still talking to my ex. I lied because I didn’t think she wouldn’t understand why we still talked. It does seem crazy to be friends with an ex, but she was there for me as a friend only. Before I confessed to my girlfriend about my ex, I had told her she was a best friend in my phone. Another best friend from home in fact. (Even more stupid) I dug my hole deeper and told her one was another. To make matters worse I had my ex portray messages as to being the other friend. Before I lied again and made matters even more worse I confessed to my girlfriend about everything. I completely betrayed my girlfriend and lied several times about my ex. I never lied about anything else in our whole relationship especially to lie about something so stupid and not worth it was the dumbest decision I’ve ever made in my life. I told my ex to stop contact with me again and that our friendship was over. I have apologized and owned up to every lie I told my girlfriend about this situation with my ex. It was completely wrong and I should’ve told her from the beginning. I should of never tried to stay friends with my ex during our relationship. It wasn’t worth all the hurt I caused her and myself for being dishonest and betraying her like that. I have to earn her trust, respect, love all over again to make this work and I to be forgiven by her. I know I’ll have to work really hard for her forgiveness and trust again. I love her and I shouldn’t of lied to her about something so stupid. I think she is beyond worth trying to mend this. I know it’ll take time to mend things and for us to heal from this. Should I continue this relationship? Should I try to make it work even knowing it’s not going to be easy? Thoughts and opinions would be greatly appreciated.
Do you envisage spending the whole rest of your life with the woman in question? If you dont, drop it. If you want to spend theorist of your life with her, stick with her, you lied, but you didn’t cheat. Ask her if she has always been 100% honest with you, chances are, she’s told the odd fib if you’ve been together for a reasonable length of time, like three years
Honestly, that lie isn’t that big. But lying is still wrong to do with your girlfriend.
