Am I Asexual?

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Co-authored by Deb Schneider, LCSW, PPSC

If you’ve ever wondered “Why are people so interested in sex?!”, this quiz is meant for you.

People who identify as asexual (“ace”) generally don’t experience sexual attraction and/or may have absent or low desire for sexual contact. However, like all areas of sexuality, there’s a whole spectrum. Ace folks may still want close emotional relationships, romance, non-sexual contact like cuddling, and some might even experience attraction from time to time. Sound like you?

You get the last say in how you want to identify, but if you’re ready to explore your feelings and sexuality, click on.

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Questions Overview

1. How do you feel about physical touch and physical intimacy?
  1. Strongly against. I like my personal space.
  2. I like hugging and cuddling but don’t want to do much more.
  3. I like kissing, but nothing more intense.
  4. I wouldn’t mind being physically intimate with my partner.
2. The last time you had a crush on someone:
  1. I can’t think of the last time I had a crush.
  2. It was on a really close friend I’ve known for a long time.
  3. It was on someone I sort of knew well.
  4. It was on a random stranger I found attractive.
3. When your friends point out someone who’s attractive:
  1. I don’t get it at all.
  2. I can see they’re objectively attractive but I don’t feel attracted to them.
  3. I kinda get it, but I don’t react like my friends.
  4. I totally get it.
4. When other people talk about wanting to have sex:
  1. I don’t see the appeal and find myself not wanting to discuss it as much as other people do.
  2. I feel neutral, or I can only relate like 10% of the time.
  3. I can only picture having sex with someone if we have a strong emotional bond.
  4. I can definitely relate.
5. What do you imagine when picturing a future relationship?
  1. I’m not interested in any kind of relationship.
  2. I can picture a close emotional relationship without anything sexual.
  3. I could see myself getting physical after I get to know someone.
  4. I want to connect with my future partner physically and emotionally.
6. When your friends talk about their latest hookup or crush, how do you feel?
  1. I’m not at all interested. Can we change the topic?
  2. I feel pretty “meh.” Sometimes I get bored.
  3. I’ll play along and act engaged, but I can’t personally relate.
  4. I actively participate in the conversation.
7. Does the idea of sex make you uncomfortable?
  1. Yes. Next question.
  2. Eh, sometimes.
  3. I guess not, if it’s with someone I really like.
  4. Not really.
8. If you could have a romantic relationship without sex, you’d feel:
  1. Thrilled. That’s what I want.
  2. Fine. I’d be okay with that.
  3. Mixed. I’d still want to have sex or engage in some sexual acts from time to time.
  4. Pretty bummed out.
9. How does the idea of dating make you feel?
  1. I’m not interested in dating anyone, and I don’t think I ever will be.
  2. I’m not sure how I feel about dating, especially if sex will be involved.
  3. I’m only interested in dating if we have a strong emotional bond.
  4. I’m interested in dating for both the physical and emotional aspects of a relationship.
10. When someone asks you who your celebrity crush is:
  1. I don’t have one!
  2. I give them a name of a random popular celebrity.
  3. I’m not into celebrities, but I guess I can point out an attractive one.
  4. I can quickly name someone!
11. If someone asked for your number because they were attracted to you, how would you react?
  1. I’d tell them I’m not interested.
  2. I’d be flattered, but I’d only be interested in friendship.
  3. I’d be nervous but pretty excited.
  4. I’d be interested. I might even flirt back!
12. Why did you decide to take this quiz?
  1. I think I’m asexual.
  2. I’m not sure what I am and/or I wonder whether I am asexual!
  3. I’m just doing this for fun.
  4. I want to make sure I’m not asexual.
13. What’s your biggest fear in a relationship?
  1. That my partner will want something that I can’t give them.
  2. That I won’t be able to compromise with my partner.
  3. That they won’t share the same emotional connection I have with them.
  4. That I’ll want to get physically intimate more than they do.
14. Would you be happy if you and your partner never had sex?
  1. Definitely—sex isn’t a priority for me at all.
  2. I think so, yeah. I would be fine with a nonsexual relationship.
  3. I’m uncertain. I might be okay with sex, but I’m not totally sure.
  4. Not at all. Sex is an important priority for me.
15. Do you identify with ace characters in movies, books, and TV shows?
  1. Absolutely! I feel incredibly seen and represented.
  2. A bit! I identify with these characters to some extent.
  3. I’d have to give it a little more thought.
  4. Nope. I don’t see any parallels between me and those characters.
16. Could you see yourself labeling yourself as asexual on social media?
  1. Definitely—I feel like that label could be a great fit.
  2. Partially! I identify with parts of the asexual experience, at least.
  3. I’d be willing to give it a try, but I’m not entirely sure.
  4. Not at all. I can’t see myself ever using that label.

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All About Asexuality

What is asexuality?
Asexuality (often abbreviated as “ace”) is a spectrum used to describe a lack of sexual attraction. Some ace individuals are completely repulsed by the idea of sex, while others may feel okay with sex in specific circumstances. There isn’t a cut-and-dry way to be “ace”—it’s an incredibly subjective and personal experience (as is anything related to sexuality).

Are ace people members of the LGBTQ+ community?
Yes, asexual individuals are most definitely members of the LGBTQ+ community. The ace identity isn’t as well-known as other common elements of the LGBTQ+ acronym, like lesbian (women or nonbinary individuals attracted to other women), gay (anyone attracted to the same gender identity), bisexual (people attracted to the same gender identity and at least one mroe gender identity), transgender (people who don’t identify with their assigned gender from birth), and so on. Still, a lack of spotlight doesn’t change the fact that ace people have and always will fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella.

Other Asexual Labels/Identities The way a person settles on a label for their sexuality is completely personal and subjective. At the end of the day, though, asexuality is a spectrum—and there are plenty of different identities that fit beneath that umbrella:

  • Demisexual : A person who only develops sexual attraction after an emotional bond exists in the relationship first.
  • Graysexual : A person who falls somewhere between asexual (experiencing no sexual attraction) and allosexual (experiencing sexual attraction).
  • Aceflux : A person whose sexuality shifts around the asexual spectrum OR a person whose sexuality shifts between asexual and allosexual.
  • Cupiosexual : A person who doesn’t experience sexual attraction but still wishes to have sex.
  • Fraysexual : A person who feels sexual attraction when they don’t know someone on a deep level; this attraction can go away as a friendship/bond is formed.


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