How to Approach a Guy Online: 10+ Messages You Can Send to Get a Response

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Whether you’re online dating or you just spot someone cute on social media, approaching a guy online is a great way to get a conversation started. Picking the right opening line can be the difference between a fun chat and a message left on “seen,” so it’s important to pick the right one. Read through these options to strike up a convo with a guy online to see where it goes.

1

Talk about something on his profile.

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    Before you send your opening line, take a look at his profile and see what he likes. If you notice a ton of hiking pics, ask about the last trail he really enjoyed. If there’s a ton of food pics, get a recommendation on which restaurants are the best around town. [1]
    • For instance, you might say, “I see that you like to hike! Have you been to any fun ones this season?”
    • Or, “So you’re a foodie, huh? Have you tried the new Mexican restaurant downtown yet?”
    • Reader Poll: We asked 157 wikiHow readers how they initiate conversations with guys online, and 52% said they talk about something on his profile, like his photos, prompts, or bio. [Take Poll]
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2

Give him a compliment.

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    If you see something on his profile that you really like, send it in a message to catch his attention. You could compliment his looks, his hobbies, or his personality. For example: [2]
    • “You have such a nice smile!”
    • “Wow, you look really strong. Do you work out?”
3

Ask for a new series recommendation.

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    Ask him to recommend a new TV show or movie that you can watch in your free time. You’ll get a sense of his taste in media and he’ll feel like you value his opinion. You could say: [3]
    • “Help! I need a new series to binge, stat!”
    • “What’s the best movie you’ve watched in the past year?”
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4

Try a “This or that?” question.

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    Pick anything: food, animals, cities, celebrities, and ask him which one he prefers. It will be a nice way to show off your sense of humor so you two can get a bit of banter going. Try something like: [4]
    • “Pizza or burgers?”
    • “Chicago or New York?”
    • “Cats or dogs?”
5

Ask about a common interest you have.

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    If you do, really lean into it so you have something fun to talk about. Remember to always be truthful, and don’t lie about a common interest you don’t have. You could say something like: [5]
    • “You went to Portland State too? I graduated from there last year!”
    • “How weird, I just moved here from Alaska as well! Small world, isn’t it?”
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6

Try a cheesy pickup line.

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    You can make him giggle and start out on the right foot by using a ridiculous line (the cheesier the better). If he appreciates it, he might even send one back. Go for one like: [6]
    • “Why is someone as hot as you looking for a date?”
    • “Did it hurt when you fell out of heaven?”
    • “If I could rearrange the alphabet, I’d put U and I together.”
7

Ask a “would you rather” question.

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    Pick something a little ridiculous and ask the guy what he would choose. If you disagree, you can have a flirty debate about it as you continue the conversation. [7]
    • For instance, you might say, “Would you rather fight 10 duck-sized horses or 1 horse-sized duck?”
    • Or, “Would you rather eat beans for every meal or have to drink 1 gallon of milk every day?”
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8

Talk about an embarrassing moment.

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    It will break the ice, and it’s a fun way to start a conversation. To make it a little less intense, ask about an embarrassing moment from his teen years. [8]
    • Say something like, “What was the most embarrassing thing that happened to you in high school?”
9

Break the ice with a gif.

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    Scroll through your gifs and pick one out that’s a little silly and kind of flirty. If it works, he’ll probably send a gif back to start out your conversation. [9]
    • For instance, try a gif that says “How you doin’?” or “Hey cutie” for a fun opening line.
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10

Get deep with a personal question.

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    If he’s a good conversationalist, he’ll ask you the same question so you two can get to know each other better. It will help you move past the small talk and into a deeper conversation. [10]
    • Try something like, “What makes you happy?”
    • Or, “What’s your biggest fear?”
11

Tell him you’re about to flirt.

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    If you think he’s really cute and you don’t want to beat around the bush, just come out and tell him he’s about to get flirted with. He’ll probably find it charming and sweet! [11]
    • Say something like, “Watch out, here comes a flirtatious message!”
    • Or, “Please don’t judge me, but I’m about to flirt.”
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12

Ask him out on a date.

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    If you aren’t a fan of DMing back and forth for days, let him know by asking him out. This works well on dating apps when you’re both there to find a potential romantic partner. You could say something like: [12] [13]
    • “So, when are we getting that drink?”
    • “If you want to go on a FaceTime date, just send me your schedule.”

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      2. ↑ https://www.regain.us/advice/how-to/how-to-start-a-conversation-on-tinder-with-a-guy-that-swipes-right-on-you/
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