How to Deal With a Man That Will Not Take No for Answer

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   Assess whether he is a threat. ^{[2] [3]} Not listening to what you say is a red flag—but how much of a red flag it is depends on the circumstances. At best, he is seriously misguided, and at worst, he is potentially violent and very unsafe. You always have a right to say no; this is important in considering whether and how to protect your safety.

   • Learn how to read emotions . A tense or harsh tone of voice may indicate someone is angry or upset. Facial cues might indicate the same, such as drawn in eyebrows, dilated nostrils, and a hard, piercing stare. If you notice these signs, try to end the interaction as soon as possible, or get in sight of others. ^[4]
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   Listen to your instincts. If you feel that this guy is likely to hurt you or make you extremely uncomfortable, you're probably right. If you think that he isn't horrible but just misguided, then you're probably right. Err on the side of playing it safe. You don't want to get hurt.

   • Learn to trust your gut. How do you feel in your body when you are around this person? Does your heart beat fast in alarm? Do your fists clench? Do you find yourself holding your breath? All of these could be bodily signs that this person is making you uncomfortable, even if he has a smile on his face. ^[5]
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   Be cautious if you are getting bad vibes or feel afraid of him. Direct confrontation may lead to escalation, so avoid telling him off; he might start threatening you or turn violent. Trust your instincts and find ways to either end the interaction or get around others.

   • For example, you might look at your watch and suddenly exclaim that you are late for a meeting or appointment. This can be a good way to get away from the person. It also demonstrates that someone somewhere is waiting on your arrival, and will be wary if you are late.
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   Go to safer ground if a guy is getting pushy. Some men become loud, threatening, or violent if a woman keeps saying no. He is less likely to do this if you are somewhere with more witnesses, and you are more likely to run into a kind bystander who can help you out.

   • Crowded areas are far safer than isolated places.
   • Look for other women. Many women can recognize the signs that a woman is being harassed by a guy, and can swoop in to the rescue or get outside help.
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   Look for an authority figure. If he won't listen to you, maybe he'll listen to someone in a position of power, whether it's a boss, bartender, or teacher. This person may also be able to threaten consequences if he doesn't knock it off.

   • At work and school, you have a right to focus on your work in a nonthreatening environment free of harassment.
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   Try avoiding him. See if you can politely excuse yourself when he comes by. Say something like "I need to finish a project," "It's getting late," or "I'll see you around." Most people understand that if they follow you out, they would look like a creepy jerk, so he is likely to not do that.

   • If he starts following you, go straight for a crowd, authority figure, or police.
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   Enlist the support of friends, coworkers, or even random bystanders. If he won't listen to you being straightforward, then it's time to get outside help. Explain the situation and ask for help in extricating yourself from this situation.

   • If he's pressing you in public, start crying or saying no, loudly. If he tries to cover it up by acting like he wants to comfort you, push him away. People will recognize he's bothering you, and they'll come help.
   • If he lays his hands on you after refusing to leave, then scream. Scream loudly and persistently until he leaves or someone comes running.
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   Get help from law enforcement if needed. An extremely persistent or violent guy may leave you with no other option than a restraining order or harassment charges. You deserve to be able to go about your day without worrying about what he'll do next, and you certainly deserve to be at peace.
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If you want to reduce the chances of being vulnerable, there are certain safety measures you can take. Following these tips can reduce the risk, but they can't guarantee your safety, nor is it your fault if you aren't perfectly alert all the time. The actions of a dangerous man are his fault, never yours.

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   Learn basic self-defense practices. ^[6] Self-defense is much more than just fighting back. It encompasses skills relating to becoming more aware of your surroundings, considering your options when in danger, practicing assertiveness, and attempting to de-escalate a potentially threatening situation. In reality, fighting back may actually make this guy more angry and result in you getting hurt. Sign up for a local self-defense class in which you can learn how to deflect violence and protect yourself in such situations.

   • In a tight situation, your ultimate goal is to get to safety. If you have no choice but to use physical violence, aim for the body parts in which you can inflict the most damage - and, therefore, have time to run away. Try to jab, punch, or kick the attacker in the eyes, nose, throat, crotch or knees. ^[7]
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   Maintain control. Using alcohol or drugs in situations with people who you are not totally comfortable can leave you in a compromising position. Your defenses are down at these times, and you are less likely to be able to read your environment and anticipate threats. If you are just hanging out or beginning to date a new person, keep alcohol and drugs off the table.

   • A guy who does not want to take no for an answer wants to be in control. If alcohol and drugs are in the picture, you may mistakenly be giving this person more control to potentially drug you or coerce you into sex or other activities.
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   Be aware of what's out there about you on the internet. Many social media profiles display phone numbers and emails, which may be an opening for a creep to contact you. In the future, change your privacy settings so that your personal information is displayed only to those you trust (or no one at all). Also, be mindful of what you are posting online. Someone who means you harm has an easier time of locating you if you regularly tag yourself at different locations.
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   Avoid going to secluded places with people you don't know. If you are meeting a new guy for a blind date, choose to go somewhere public - and meet him at the location; don't give him your home address. Make sure someone else knows where you are at all times. If you can, try to set up a group or double date so that other friends are with you.
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   Remember that any acts of violence are his fault, not yours. It is his responsibility to act like a decent human being, not yours to be perfectly wary and watchful at every moment. If things go terribly wrong and someone does hurt you, it is not your fault. You have the right to say no, and it is his fault if he does not respect that.
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