How can I get my ex back?

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Nicole Moore
Love & Relationship Coach

03/04/25 2:42pm

When trying to get back with someone you really love, it’s important to first understand why the breakup happened in the first place and what you’re going to do differently this time around. If you come to your former partner showing them that you’re taking responsibility for your side of the street and that you have implemented changes or have a plan to, they are much more likely to consider getting back with you.

Next, it’s important to remember what brought you and your ex together in the first place and to try and replicate that. Remembering why you clicked and loved each other in the beginning can go a long way toward getting back together again. Was there a favorite restaurant that the two of you used to go to that you can bring your ex to again or send them dinner from that restaurant as a surprise at their door? Did the two of you bond over a mutual love for certain musical artists, books, or art? Consider sending your ex a card with the lyrics to your song in it, a book from their favorite author, or something that reminds you both about the time you spent in the beginning of your relationship connecting over mutual interests.

Finally, communicate with your former partner openly and honestly about why you want to get back together. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable and share your true feelings. You don’t need to beg or plead with them to take you back but rather you want to paint a picture for them of your vision for the relationship moving forward.

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Anonymous WikiFlamingo

03/05/25 10:10am

Hunny! There's a reason why if it didn't work out the 1st time it may be possible that it may repeat itself the 2nd time! Sometimes! Tho!?.... That 3rd time might be a charm! I mean who knows! You'll never know until you try and if you guys are willing to give it another chance than I say go get your ex back! Only! Under one condition tho!
As long as he's willing to work & give the same amount of effort in! And it doesn't necessarily mean y'all have to be on the same page what's important is as long as y'all on the same chapter! And not one already ahead of you and turned to the next already make sure y'all turn the next paragraph TOGETHER!

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WikiCapybaraJammer903

03/09/25 4:03pm

Don't try it

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Nemesis0410

03/10/25 7:22am

This kinda depends on the relationship you had. If it was toxic, I wouldn't recommend getting back together. Also take into consideration that perhaps your ex might not want to get back with you. I would give it time, and try to work things out and make sure you're both on the same page and improve the relationship.

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