My crush probably likes my best friend

03/10/25 11:35am

ok so, i think i possibly ruined my chances with my crush somehow, I'm always so awkward and I don't even give off the kind of girl he likes, but I really am the kind of girl he would go for. he believes my best friend is "freaky" when she's not even ready for all that intimate stuff yet, I already am. and with past relationships, I've always been a pretty good gf, maybe like 8/10 on rating. one day, my crush told me he liked my bsf, and she said she liked him too, knowing I like him as well. nowadays I see them talking less and being awkward after he confessed to her. should I leave it alone or try again?

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03/10/25 11:37am

It's best if you have a conversation with your best friend about what happened first before trying again with your crush. Be honest about your feelings and remind her that you also have a crush on him. If your friend and your crush are talking less, it may be a sign that they moved on and there's another chance for you.

Then, try being direct with your crush and let them know that you're interested. You could say something like, "I've really started to like you and I'm wondering if you feel the same way." If he seems receptive and says he has feelings for you too, then keep chatting and building your relationship with him.

If your crush tells you that they aren't interested or that they still like your friend, then it's probably best to move on rather than trying to change his mind. Be polite, respect his decision, and remember that there are a lot of other guys out there who could be interested in you and might be a better match.

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LeTisha Underwood
Certified Professional Matchmaker

03/10/25 11:46am

In all honesty, it depends on how deep of a connection you and your friend have. Either you can talk it out with them, or decide to let your crush choose. Just don’t let it destroy your friendship. Also, keep in mind that just because you like someone, it doesn’t mean they have to like you back.

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WikiGladeTrader214

03/12/25 9:29am

well, to be honest talk to ure friend before ure crush
initiate a conversation and ask about her feelings
ask her if she likes him and all that
remind her that u like him too but reassure her that nothing is going to happen
talk to ure cruush too, and ask him about his feelings
u can even say ure jealous of ure bff to get him rizzed up
and atleast confess
if he rejects u, move on or be there for him,
if he doesnt make a move

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Anonymous WikiCloud

03/14/25 10:37pm

I'm in a really similar situation! I really like this guy, and he lives next door to my best friend,and tells her everything. I've only spoken to him a couple of times though. He told my best friend he likes someone, and when I ask my bestie to tell me more she avoids the topic. Does he like my bestie? She does't like him back and tells me so. But I still have second thoughts. What do I do?

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