Should you kiss on the first date?

12/17/24 4:13pm

M23 here. What are your thoughts on kissing on a first date? I can never tell when I go on a date whether I should try for a kiss, how to do it, or when. I often end up not even attempting it because I don't want to come off too strong and frankly I also don't want to be rejected. Is it safest to just wait until date number 2? Or if not, how do you initiate a kiss on a first date?

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WikiDolphinTrader304

12/18/24 2:12pm

I don't think there's a black and white answer here. Whether or not you should kiss someone on the first date really depends. If you had a good time and get the vibe that she did too, then generally, I say go for it--yes, there's a possibility you'll be rejected, there's always that possibility, but you gotta be brave!

You can lead up to a kiss throughout the date by "breaking the touch barrier" as soon as you can: hug her or shake hands when you meet, give little touches throughout the night, like high fives or touch her hair or just be physically close to her. This will signal that you're interested in being more physically intimate, so the kiss won't seem to just come out of nowhere; it will also increase sexual tension between you.

At the end of the date, though, if you're still not sure about kissing her on the mouth, try kissing her hand, or better yet give her a forehead kiss--it's cute, its pure, it's unexpected. And it lets her know your intentions. Good luck man!

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WikiKangarooKeeper877

12/19/24 7:52pm

It really depends on the person and the date. Some people make out or even hoook up on the first date. Others don't have their first kiss until months after being in an established relationship. It's up to you to assess how the girl is feeling and use your best judgement. Observe her body language and what she says. If she leans in close to you a lot, finds ways to touch you (like brushing her hand or leg against yours, leaning against you, etc.), and flirts with you, that could be a good sign that a kiss on your first date is viable.

I'd say your best opportunity for a kiss on the first date is at the end of it. Watch for the "linger"—this happens when the two of you initiate your goodbyes but the conversation somehow keeps going, and you draw out your date. This is a good sign that she could be waiting for you to kiss her! Lean in and see how she reacts. If she backs up or looks alarmed, pull back. But if she stays put and smiles or leans in, then go for it!

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WikiRiverWatcher831

12/20/24 10:33pm

If you're stressed about whether or not to kiss someone on a first date, my recommendation would be to not even try to go for a kiss. This may sound negative, but worrying the whole date about whether you should kiss or how to kiss her the right way may make you anxious and make the date more stressful than it has to be. I'd set the thought of kissing her aside and just focus on getting to know her and having a good time. If the kiss happens, it'll just be a bonus!

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