Telltale signs she will cheat on me?

WikiManateeLeaper902
11/18/24 10:02am
Recently, something has felt different with my gf and I don't quite know what it is. I have a bad feeling that she's going to cheat on me, but I don't really have any proof besides how I'm feeling. What obvious signs should I be watching out for? Is there anything I should be doing different?
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Chloe Carmichael, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
03/13/25 1:53pm
It’s completely normal to feel unsettled when something feels different in your relationship. Instead of focusing solely on potential signs of cheating like increased secrecy, emotional distance, or unexplained absences, try shifting your attention to the overall health of your connection. Find some time when things are quiet and you can talk, then tell her you've noticed things seem different and ask her if she agrees. A calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling can reveal whether there's a real issue to address. Also, if you have a history of dealing with infidelity make sure to consider if that is shaping your current perspective. Wishing you all the best!
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Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP
Clinical Therapist & Adjunct Professor
03/31/25 9:22pm
Usually, when someone is going to cheat, they become secretive. They try and hide things from you so you don’t suspect infidelity. Leaving the room to answer the phone, hiding their phone when they’re texting someone, lots of passwords or being out and about with no real story about where they’ve been. Keep in mind, some people are private and have boundaries, we should respect that. However, usually people are willing to share what they’re doing outside of the relationship if it’s not going to cause harm to the relationship. If you bring up some of your concerns and you feel like the person is gaslighting you or making you feel crazy for questioning, that’s a big red flag.
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WikiFerretCatcher982
11/21/24 7:31am
I noticed that my girlfriend stopped arguing with me. That may sound like a good thing but really it was because she didn't care enough to argue with me anymore. If we disagreed about something she'd just drop it and take the path of least resistance instead of putting effort into getting me to understand where she was coming from.
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Anonymous WikiMist
Anonymous WikiMist
12/11/24 3:12pm
Distant, focused on her appearance, going out a lot, phone always facing down, not into intimate time, pushing u away when trying to touch her
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WikiCheetahRunner104
11/20/24 12:58pm
My girlfriend was distant before she cheated on me. She didn't want to cuddle or kiss as much and the little touches we used to have throughout the day disappeared.
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WikiChinchillaRunner697
11/19/24 2:34pm
I'm sorry to hear you're going through that right now, but here are some things to look out for if you suspect that your partner is cheating on you. She may start spending less time you and feel a little more distant in your relationship, or she may be more secretive of her phone and who she's texting when you try asking her. The only way to know for sure is addressing the issue head on and letting her know that you noticed something change in your relationship and asking her what's causing it. A cheater may lie about doing anything wrong, but there's a chance that she may be able to help quell your fears and give a good reason for the way she's been acting.
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Anonymous WikiOcelot
Anonymous WikiOcelot
03/20/25 1:31am
I know she's cheating but the way she makes things my fault
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WikiGopherJumper790
11/21/24 8:17pm
Yeah my girl kept hiding her phone and going to places. When I asked her about who she was hanging out with or what she was doing she would give me vague answers. I should've known she was going to cheat on me!
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Anonymous WikiZebra
Anonymous WikiZebra
12/28/24 5:48am
This is all horrible advice, focused on the needs of the cheater and not the one who was cheated on
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Anonymous WikiCapybara
Anonymous WikiCapybara
12/28/24 7:57am
Hope I can end cheating relationship if not awife,but my wife cheating or me it's better we sit down we discuss and forgive each other and continue with marriage
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Anonymous WikiGibbon
Anonymous WikiGibbon
01/05/25 3:26am
She is not truly interested in your conversation and does not text daily like she used to.
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Anonymous WikiGibbon
Anonymous WikiGibbon
01/22/25 6:45pm
she def cheating
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Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
03/14/25 2:27pm
If you sense that something is off with your girlfriend, I'd recommend direct communication. Sit her down and have a check in with her about her well-being and your relationship. Ask her how's she doing and if there are things she wishes were different about your relationship. Come to this conversation with an open mind and empathy. Reassure her that you care about her and are willing to put in the effort to work through the problems in your relationship together. Hopefully she will open up to you about what is causing her to act this way so you can collaborate on your relationship before she does any kind of cheating.
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