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Toxic friend. Any advice?

WikiValleyWhisperer379
WikiValleyWhisperer379
08/27/25 4:31pm
Honestly, I think my BFF is kinda toxic. She always makes jokes that I'm a bigback and things like that. It sucks. Any advice?
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Annabelle Reyes
Annabelle Reyes
wikiHow Staff
08/27/25 5:29pm
First of all, I’m sorry you’re going through that! It sounds like your friend makes some pretty insensitive comments to you, and that can really hurt. Sometimes, people think they’re joking or teasing in a friendly way, but they’re actually being offensive. Try letting her know that her comments are hurtful first. If she didn’t mean to hurt your feelings, she’ll probably apologize and change her behavior. If she continues making these offensive jokes even when you’ve asked her not to, that would be pretty toxic behavior. At that point, you would be totally justified to take some space from that friendship, or even end it altogether. You deserve friends who encourage you and make you feel safe, not friends who cut you down or hurt your feelings!
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Jin S. Kim, MA
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
08/27/25 5:33pm
If you do decide to end the friendship, I encourage you to have a closure discussion with the toxic friend, or to express how you feel about the friendship before determining whether the relationship will end. I believe this reinforces healthy communication and could potentially minimize any residual animosities between the two of you.
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