If you’re an anime fan, you may have seen the kabedon, an act in which a character pushes another character against the wall. While this may sometimes be an act of intimidation, it is mostly associated with romance series and viewed as a flirtatious action. In this article, we’ll teach you everything you need to know about the kabedon, including what it means, the action’s origins, how to perform the kabedon, and whether it is appropriate to do in real life.
What is the kabedon?
The kabedon is the act of pushing someone against a wall, typically in a flirtatious manner. The act was popularized by manga and anime, and has since become a meme in which fans poke fun at the trope. Cosplayers may perform the kabedon with friends, but it is typically seen as inappropriate in Japanese society.
Steps
How to Do the Kabedon
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Back a consenting partner against a wall. Before performing the kabedon, make sure your partner is okay with it. Then, face them with their back toward the wall. Slowly approach them so they’re forced to back up until their back hits the wall. Don’t rush toward them, as the kabedon would then seem too aggressive rather than flirtatious. [4] X Research source
- Even if you’re poking fun at the kabedon or doing it ironically, you’re still invading someone’s personal space. Make sure they’re okay with you doing so before continuing.
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Press one hand against the wall and lean in. As you approach them, lightly slap one hand against the wall. Again, don’t do this too forcefully or the kabedon may seem too aggressive. Lean into your partner, getting as close as you’re both comfortable with. Offer them a flirty smile and make eye contact to fluster them. [5] X Research source
- If you’re not trying to do a serious kabedon and are just joking around with a friend, try putting your foot against the wall instead.
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Tilt their chin up or give them a kiss. If this is someone you’re romantically involved with, don’t be afraid to get physical. If they seem flustered, gently tease them and lift their chin so they look you in the eye. Say something flirty if you wish, then pull them in for a kiss. [6] X Research source
- Remember, there’s a difference between your partner being flustered and being uncomfortable. If your partner seems intimidated, ask if they want you to continue. If they don’t, stop immediately.
- You can also play with their glasses or jewelry, or whisper in their ear.
- If you’re not romantically involved with your kabedon partner or you want to lighten the mood, try telling them a joke or making a funny face.
Expert Q&A
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Tips
- There is an alternate meaning of kabedon, in which someone hits the wall of their apartment to complain that their neighbor is being too loud. [13] X Research sourceThanks
- While the kabedon is mostly associated with romance animes, it is sometimes used as a form of intimidation in action-based animes, like in My Hero Academia when Bakugo slams his fist against a wall to intimidate Deku.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://animanga.fandom.com/wiki/Kabedon
- ↑ https://www.cbr.com/kabedon-shojo-anime-manga-trope/
- ↑ https://www.cbr.com/kabedon-shojo-anime-manga-trope/
- ↑ https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/real-life/kabedon-new-japanese-mating-ritual-need-know/
- ↑ https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/real-life/kabedon-new-japanese-mating-ritual-need-know/
- ↑ https://asiapacificarts.org/2018/09/16/the-allure-of-kabedon/
- ↑ https://otakuusamagazine.com/japanese-government-suggests-people-practice-kabedon-for-romance/
- ↑ https://asiapacificarts.org/2018/09/16/the-allure-of-kabedon/
- ↑ https://www.cbr.com/kabedon-shojo-anime-manga-trope/