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What can I do if my relationship is a secret due to me not being allowed to date, but my partner wants to make it known?

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What I suggest is that you do things at your own pace. If that person forces you into making the relationship official, then it is not meant to be. Going at your own pace should be alright with them.

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My girlfriend lives in Sweden and I live in the USA; what should I do for dates, birthdays, etc.?

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You should try to set up a certain time to voice chat and try your best to make it feel like a date in person, with maybe a candle and low lights.

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What if I can't meet them in person and/or I don't know what they look like?

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You should find out what they look like to be safe. Skype with video chat is a good way to see each other face to face. If they seem sketchy about video chat, calmly ask another time but remain cautious.

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How old do I have to be to get an online boyfriend or girlfriend?

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Its 100% up to you, so long as you don't get sexual till the age of consent.

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What do I do if the person is not online or away for a long time?

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Try to reach your boyfriend or girlfriend another way or simply wait. They may be in an area where there is weak Wi-Fi, or they may be preoccupied with something else. Depending on how serious your relationship is, you can ask the person to tell you the next time they are going to be offline for an extended period of time.

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How should I talk to my girlfriend from another country?

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Start by asking about the culture there and what she likes to do in her free time. Hopefully more complex conversations will develop from there.

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Is having an online relationship as effective as an in-person relationship?

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They both require time and commitment, but if both people are serious about making it work, an online relationship can be just as effective as an in-person relationship.

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What should I do if my boyfriend barely talks to me, but when I tell him it's over, he tells me "No, I love you?"

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Tell him why you want to break up with him and if he still says "no" then stand up for yourself. Or you can ask him if he wants to talk on video chat or Skype and explain to him the reason you want to break up. If he tells you he'll change, give him a chance if you think he's sincere, otherwise just tell him it's over. No one can make you stay in a relationship.

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What if I am 5 years younger than a guy that says he likes me?

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When you're both adults, age isn't a big factor. When you're under 18, however, age is a big deal. If you're talking to someone online who says he's 5 years older than you, it could be a very big deal. The guy could be a predator. Don't get emotionally invested in an online relationship with someone you don't know.

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How can I tell if my online friend likes me?

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If they often greet you as soon as you go online, or if they want to talk to you often, that's a sign that they like you. Also, they would probably ask you about your interests and opinions, how your day is going, and so forth.

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How can I and my boyfriend do more physical things online?

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Video chat together or tell each other what you would do in bed with them.

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Is it illegal to be sexual if she is a few months older than me?

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It depends. If you're both under the age of consent, then it wouldn't be illegal unless you were exchanging photos or videos, which would be distribution of child porn. If you're underage and she's of age, then she could get in trouble for being sexual with you depending on what she says and does. If you're both of age, then no, it's not illegal.

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He's an introvert and says he doesn't talk to other girls, but when I check his inbox, I can see he's been flirting. What do I do?

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Confront him about it. Tell him what you say in his inbox. Be prepared for him to be angry with you, because you were obviously snooping. Tell him if he's unwilling to make a commitment to you and stick to it, then the relationship is over.

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I have an online romantic partner, and we've never met. How can I strengthen our relationship?

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Talk more. The more you talk to him/her the more your relationship will bond and it will help you. You can also find out more things about him/her.

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What age is acceptable for dating online, and how much of an age difference is acceptable?

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People's opinions will vary on this. It's really unsafe for anyone under the age of 18 to date online, as all sorts of things can go terribly wrong. As for an age difference, again, that depends on the person, but if the people dating are pretty young, the difference probably shouldn't be more than about 5 years. A person under the age of 18 should not under any circumstances "date" an adult.

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How do I deal with someone who is living in another country that my parents will not let me visit?

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Maybe that person could visit you. Or, wait until you're legally allowed to travel alone to meet them.

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