Q&A for How to Get a Girl to Open up to You when You're a Guy

What I like to do is take the lead conversationally until she's comfortable. Always be open to what she has to say, but talk about the things you like, things you want to do, and what your dreams are. Then, ask leading questions to get her to talk about herself, as well.

Unfortunately it sounds like she's not really interested in talking to you and just doesn't know how to say so. I would give her some space and see if she initiates a conversation. If not, I would stop trying to engage with her.

Don't rush anything or try to force them to open up to you. Just let a friendship develop with that person naturally and do your best to show them that you are trustworthy and kind. Over time they might feel more comfortable opening up to you, but if not, you'll have to respect that.

Be there for her without asking probing questions and especially without offering advice on how to fix things. She doesn't want to tell you, so take that as your command and simply let her know that you care about her, you're there for her whenever she needs you and that she can talk to you if she wants to. Give her hugs, send her supportive messages and generally be a source of strength and brightness around her. When she's ready, she'll open up to you but even if she doesn't, she'll know you're reliable and trustworthy.

The best thing in that case is letting her know you will be there for her. Be available. Ask her how she is doing regularly. Don't be pushy, but keep interested. When she realizes how comfortable you make her feel and how sincerely you care about how she feels, sooner or later she will open up. Some people just need time, they need to be really secure about whether they can trust you. I am sure she will love you even more for the fact that you are trying to be a good listener and a considerate boyfriend.

Well, if you do want to take her out, then say yes and suggest a place to go. If you don't want to go out with her, politely thank her but tell her you're not interested.

It just shows that she is not ready to answer those questions, don't push her. Give her time and she will answer the question properly when she feels like it.

Ask your sister to put in a good word for you. Try hanging out together with your sister to get to know her better.

Just keep communicating with her. Let her know how you feel and ask her how she feels. Let her know that she can tell you anything, and try to make her feel safe and comfortable.

Don't rush things and give her time to get to know you. Make sure you look and smell nice when you're around her. Set a good example and act mature, and she'll notice the difference.

Try to make a joke, goof around a little, and generally lighten the mood. Ask her about herself, starting with small details, like what classes she's taking, or what she likes to do on the weekends, and work your way up to slightly more personal questions.

Not all men are like this. The men in your life might just be trying to understand you better, this is not necessarily a bad thing! Try to be patient.

Your girlfriend might just be shy, or she might not be sure she can trust you. Try telling her how this is affecting you. You could say something like, "When you don't open up to me, I feel like you don't trust me, and that makes me feel bad about myself and this relationship." If you think she really doesn't know what to say, ask her questions about herself, her life, her dreams, feelings, etc.