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    How can I make a girl want to talk to me?
    Connell Barrett
    Dating Coach
    Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. He is the author of the Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t,” and has appeared on Good Morning America, the "Today" show, Access Hollywood, and in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and The Oprah Magazine. In 2019 he was named Datezie.com's “New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach."
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    Try to keep your conversation casual and about something you have in common. That way, she won't feel uncomfortable while you're talking.
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    What do you do if they adamantly refuse to talk to you? I don't even get a "go away" or "you're creepy."
    Danielle Husband
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    If she doesn't want to talk to you, respect her decision. Sometimes people just don't want to talk, and that's okay. You've likely encountered people you didn't want to talk to, so try to remember that. Instead, try to focus your efforts on someone who does want to talk to you.
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    One of my best friends stopped talking to me, and I want her to talk to me again. What do I do?
    Danielle Husband
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    Be the first to reach out. Send her a nice message on social media, such as a photo of you 2 together with a note about how much you miss her. Alternatively, invite her to sit with you at lunch. Let her know that you miss her and want to make up.
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    How do I talk to a girl who I find it awkward to talk to?
    Danielle Husband
    Community Answer
    Start with social media at first. This will open a door to communication that you can expand to in-person talking when you're ready.
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    How to get a girl to talk when chatting with her on social media and you already know each other?
    Danielle Husband
    Community Answer
    Send her a funny meme and wait for her response. You can also try asking her an open-ended question based on her listed interests. For example, "What did you think about the latest season of 13 Reasons Why?" Give her time to respond before sending more messages. Otherwise, she'll get annoyed.
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    How do you talk to a girl and get her to like you in that conversation?
    Danielle Husband
    Community Answer
    Try the tips provided above to get her attention and start a conversation. When you talk to her, just be yourself!
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    How do I get a girlfriend?
    Danielle Husband
    Community Answer
    Follow the steps above to get a girl's attention. After you start talking, ask her to hang out in a casual setting, such as at a local yogurt shop. You might even invite a few friends for a group hang out, at first. After you've been on a few outings, ask her if she'll be your girlfriend.
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    How do you keep a girl interested while texting?
    Drew Hawkins1
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    Try to text her when you know she's not super busy so she's more likely to want to keep talking. It's always a great idea to show off your sense of humor to make the conversation fun and so she'll want to keep it going. Crack a few jokes or send her some funny memes to make her laugh. You can also talk about interests that you have in common like a movie you both like or a class you both hate. That way you build a common bond with her. If you ever get stuck in a conversation and aren't sure how to keep it going, try asking questions. Ask her things about herself to encourage her to keep talking. Questions are an easy way to encourage her to continue talking to you.
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    Is it OK to tell a girl you're shy?
    Drew Hawkins1
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    If you're naturally a shy person and you've taken the bold step of talking to a girl that you like, that's great! As you continue trying to talk to her, it actually may be helpful to be upfront about your shyness. Tell her that you can be really shy sometimes so she understands why you may be hesitant to talk to people or do something with others. As you get to know her, you may feel more and more comfortable expressing yourself to her and around other people. Being honest with her about who you are and how you feel is always a good idea, especially if you really care about her.
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    How do you start a conversation with a girl online?
    Drew Hawkins1
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    Look to see if she's online at the same time so she can respond more quickly. Try reaching out with a simple greeting like "Hey" or "What's up" to start the conversation. When she starts to respond, try cracking some jokes or sending some funny memes to make her laugh. Try talking about things that you both enjoy such as music or movies. Ask her questions about herself to keep the conversation going and so you can learn more about her. Keep your conversation causal and laid back so she feels comfortable. If she asks you questions about yourself, answer her, and be honest she she can get to know you better as well. Try giving her a casual but genuine compliment on something other than her looks such as her style or a talent that she has. If you find herself not sure about what to say or do next, ask questions. For instance, if you draw a blank, something simple like, "So what did you think of the game" or "Have you seen the new Marvel movie?" is always a great way to keep her talking.
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