Q&A for How to Get a Husband

You share a lot more with a partner than you do with your friends. In a partnership, you're essentially sharing your finances, your time, your dreams, and your body with another person.

Take a look at some of your closest friendships. Connect with the emotions you feel when you're around these people. Chances are, the qualities and feelings that you associate with these friendships are also what you're looking for in a relationship.

Tell him you want to marry and he doesn't, so you shouldn't waste anymore of each other's time, and that you'd like to still be friends. If he is okay with that, fine, then you can consider yourself single and free to find someone else. If he doesn't accept this, just stop responding to his messages, stop answering his calls, and move on with your life.

No, he should be interested in you both sexually and as a person. If it is just about sex, the marriage will likely not work.

If you guys really understand each other and feel comfortable with doing so, then go ahead and get married. Make sure you really know each other, and think it through very carefully.

You never have to have sex if you don't want to, and no one can force you. Every culture and every individual has different ideas about sex, but nonetheless it is a healthy part of a romantic relationship. Some prefer to save sex until after they are wed, others like to make sure they match in sexual desires and preferences before committing to a long term relationship like marriage, and others still simply like casual sex without strings attached.

There are many. One of them could be him not asking you to marry him! Infidelity is another red light. Failure to make time for you and not investing in the relationship are two more.

It is because the mothers-in law are scared that their son would never talk to his mother again.

You can always call him yourself, there's no harm in that. Just say, "Hi, how are you?" and have a little conversation, see how he feels and how it is going. If he is distant, he's probably not interested, though.

Of course. However, you have to look confident and happy to attract someone. Become more active; you don't need to be skinny, but taking pride in your body is so much easier when you are proud of what it can do. Join a yoga class or get a dog and take it on long walks every day. You have to be willing to invest time in yourself.

Sex is a healthy part of a romantic relationship. Its customs and social rules differ wildly from culture to culture and, of course, from person to person. It can be a good thing to know if your sexual desires and preferences match before you get married. But remember, sex is not something you ask for, it is shared between two people because they both want to share it. No one can force you to do anything.

Yes, it is possible.

I think if you have dated someone for seven years and he's not broached the subject of marriage, then it's time to move on.

Though it is often seen as unromantic, there is nothing wrong with applying good financial planning in your life. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you have to expose yourself to a huge financial risk. It can even be a test as well. If your partner doesn't want to marry you anymore now that there won't be a nice check at the end of it - well, there you go. Talk about this together, and draft the agreement together. It's a negotiation, not a one-sided dictate.

Well, not necessarily. If you know that at least one of them would be hurt if they found out, then yes, it's not very nice of you. If you have promised exclusivity, then that's not right. However, if you feel that this is allowed, i.e. if you're not hurting yourself, then all you really need is to find men who don't mind, either. If all people involved know what's going on and agree to it, then you can do whatever you like, as long as it's not illegal. So no, you're not a bad person, unless you are hurting these guys.

Once a relationship starts, sooner or later, the topic of money will have to be addressed. It is highly recommended to have an open and frank discussion of your current financial situation as well as your financial goals and how you plan to allocate your current and future income and assets towards these goals. Priorities must be set. If you don't agree with his priorities, you have a right to address this. It is best to ask openly why he feels he is obligated to pay these things, so you understand his reasoning.

It can be nerve-wrecking to decide to spend your life with someone. If you want that to happen, think of ways to show him that he can trust you will love him once he's made that decision. Hugs and kisses help, as does telling him you would love to love him for five more years. Give him room, don't force him, but indicate that you really would like to have some sense of security from him regarding your future.

You can always ask him if he loves you. Everyone, men and women, have wildly different ideas about how long you should wait to introduce someone to your parents, and much depends on their relationship with their parents. If you think six months is the right time to be introduced, but he feels three years is better, you can talk about that and come to an agreement. Remember that it also may simply not even have crossed his mind yet that you would like to meet his mother.

You should probably have a discussion with him about whether or not he's truly ready to move on. He may be while still wanting to keep reminders of his late wife around, or he might still be grieving and unable to commit to you. If he wants to keep the photos up and continue seeing you, you have to decide if that's something you can accept. If not, you may need to end the relationship.

You could find a husband just about anyplace but one: at home. If you don't have the Internet, you're going to have to rely on meeting people in-person, which means getting out there and making a social life for yourself amidst your busy schedule. Join some local groups, volunteer for an organization that has personal meaning to you, go hiking, go to concerts in the park, see movies, or even just get out and walk around the neighborhood. If you get out and engage in things that appeal to your interests, you'll meet other people who are interested in the same things, make some friends, and perhaps even meet your future husband.

The best thing to do is to move on. Not every person in whom we express an interest will take an interest in us. Reconnect with yourself, so that when an opportunity for a relationship presents, you can pursue it.

With advances in technology, communication, and travel, intercultural relationships are becoming increasingly common. It is possible for you to find a partner who speaks English as the native language, but you will need to find one who is patient as you learn the language and with whom you can still fully express yourself in other ways.

Black women are usually seen as fierce and feisty. They're also often viewed as size queens. Many white men are concerned about dating a black woman they find attractive, because they feel they might not be able to satisfy her in the way a black man could. Live up to that fierce reputation; if the man you want doesn't come after you, you go after him.

Unfortunately, no, probably not. Love is one of (if not the) strongest emotions we humans can feel. It takes time to grow. If you've been yearning for love for a long time, then getting a positive response (finally) on a dating site can be truly satisfying, and people can confuse this for love. Two weeks is simply too short to know if it's love. Attraction, yes. Butterflies, yes. Love, most unlikely. But hey, it doesn't necessarily have to end! You can interpret it less as 'I love you' and more as 'I feel that this could possibly one day grow into love, if your feelings develop at the same pace as mine'. Continue talking, dating, kiss each other if you feel like it, see what grows.