Q&A for How to Know Your Sexuality

Absolutely—it's definitely okay to be confused about your sexuality. In general, sexuality is very fluid and not always black and white. It's okay to not have a direct answer for what your sexuality is, and it's also okay to explore! See if you're ready to take that next step and see how you feel within that situation. If the experience doesn't feel right to you, you'll at least have a little more clarity.

If you are attracted to girls and guys, you're most likely bisexual. Being bisexual means somebody is attracted to only two genders.

Of course. There are some people in the LGBTQ community who don't label themselves and that is completely okay. As long as you're happy with who you are, don't feel that a label is needed.

The quizzes can't tell you for certain. They might give you an idea, or push you in the right direction, but only you can know for certain.

If you want to look into different labels that you think could describe you, you can do that! You can also just be unlabeled, and it's perfectly valid either way!

Traditionally, people made the distinction that bisexual meant being attracted to two genders and pansexual means being attracted to all genders, but the definition more loose than that. Bisexuality is better defined as being attracted to two or more genders. Some people identify as bisexual even if they are attracted to all genders, but gender still plays an important part in their sexuality. So in the end, it's up to you which if you feel bisexual or pansexual fits you better (omnisexual and polysexual are other sexualities you may want to look into). Of course, it's okay to use more than one label, or not label yourself at all.

It's up to you. You could simply say that you don't know, or that they are not entitled to that information. It depends on how comfortable you are with this person.

It could be a sign, but not always. Many people watch porn that doesn't align with their sexuality. Pornography isn't real life, people may watch porn for the fantasy. Instead you should focus on what you want in real life. Who are you attracted to when you are not watching porn?

Lesbians generally are attracted exclusively to girls (or on some cases non-binary people whose gender is close to female). Many bisexual people have a preference for one gender over another, so if you are attracted to more than one gender, but mostly girls, you could still be bi.

If your safety, well-being, or living situation would be put in danger by coming out to them, it would probably be best to wait until you're more independent before coming out. If you are independent enough, before coming out you should try to anticipate how they will react when they learn you're LGBTQ+.

You could be on the asexual or aromantic spectrum. If you aren't interested in dating someone, you should let them know that you aren't interested. You could also be cupioromantic. Look into labels until you find one that's right for you.

You could be bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, or heteroflexible. There's nothing wrong with you, and you're not alone!

They could be queerphobic/panphobic, or they might not understand what that really means. If your "friends" don't support who you are, find people who do.

Yes. Sexuality changes over time. You might slowly experience less or more attraction to certain genders as you get older.

Any age can be asexual. Though, people don't tend to understand sexualities and whether they experience attraction to people or not until they are either pre-teens or teens.

You might be aromantic and asexual. That's okay. You could make the most of it with platonic relationships.