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    How do I make sure my husband never stops loving me?
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    Be a good listener, be supportive and share well. Tell each other the things that matter and don't keep secrets. Set aside regular dates, to revive the romance. Support each other's changes in life, for growing and changing is inevitable but can be painful if one's partner fails to be supportive.
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    How do I make my husband happy if he thinks I'm controlling?
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    Stop controlling him! Men need respect like they need air to breathe. He needs you to be his wife, not his mother.
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    My problem is I don't know how to talk sweet words to my husband. He say he never hears sweet words from me?
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    Different people have different ideas of 'sweet', but for example, you can tell him you love him regularly, compliment him, and refer to him by pet names or terms of endearment (honey, sweetie, darling, etc.). Be sure to speak in a gentle, affectionate voice, and smile, as that can affect how your words come off. If he is still dissatisfied, he's probably the one with the problem. You can always ask him what he would like to hear, too.
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    My husband is argumentative sometimes. What can I do to diffuse our fights?
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    Say, "I love you, and I refuse to argue with you," then go to your happy place and don't respond to negativity.
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    Should I compliment the way my husband dresses?
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    Yes, absolutely! Or, you could compliment on anything you like about his appearance from time to time. Guys like to hear that, too!
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    Our argument turned into a fight, and now he's not talking to me. What should I do?
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    Men are good at being silent, and if you keep asking him why or trying to talk to him, things might get worse. Give him a little time and space for now, and try to talk it through calmly later on.
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    How can I help my husband conquer his vices?
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    You should always support him. Never criticise him. Make him understand the bad sides of the vices and the great impact of virtues.
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    What should I do to maintain a healthy marriage?
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    Be honest and open-minded. Respect differences and give privacy to your partner.
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    My husband likes to be playful in a rough way and I'm often sick, so he hurts me. He says he is tired of hearing me complain and he can't even play around with me or be spontaneous. How can I fix this?
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    Tell him you are happy to be playful and spontaneous, just without the roughness. If he's hurting you, he should care more about your pain than about how 'tired' he is of your rightful complaining. Show him him how to play with you without hurting you.
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    My husband has diabetes and he doesn't like to talk about it, due to which he never likes to have sex since he is afraid he will pass on something to me. How do I make him understand the importance of having it for the betterment of our relationship?
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    Diabetes is not at all contagious, so there isn't anything to 'pass on' to you. Have him ask his doctor if he's not convinced.
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    My husband and I are short tempered; how do we handle our relationship?
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    A couples counselor will help you with strategies to communicate with one another and relate to one another.
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    My husband don't want me to wear sexy clothes, and it makes me look older than my age. What should I do?
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    First, your husband should not control what you wear - that is a bad sign, and you should tell him that you are an adult and have the right to decide for yourself what to wear. Second, you can look youthful and attractive without wearing 'sexy' clothes. Try finding modest clothing in younger demographic stores, where prints and styles are more youthful. Find a few celebrities with modest style, like Kate Middleton, as your inspirations.
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    What can I do if my husband doesn't care for me anymore?
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    Talk to him about it. Sit down and have an honest discussion about your feelings and why his behavior towards you has changed. If necessary, seek counseling.
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    How can I calm my nerves regarding my wedding night?
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    Remind yourself of why you chose your spouse-to-be. You probably chose this person because you know you are safe with them, and because you share a mutual love for each other. Everything will go smoothly, and, if it doesn't, that's okay too. You have the rest of your lives to make up for it.
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    How can we handle difficult situations without fighting?
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    Have a calm, rational discussion. Think of it as both of you fighting against the problem together rather than each other. As a last resort, you may need to seek counseling to learn healthy argument tactics.
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    What if my husband complains that I don't love him and I am trying to make him happy?
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    Ask him how you could show him you love him in a better way. If he persists in treating you that way, however, you may want to see a counselor or consider moving on.
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    My husband won't have sex with me more than maybe once every 3 months. What should I do?
    Community Answer
    Research together how to make sex fun again, and try to talk about the problem.
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    How do I avoid drinking alcohol with my husband?
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    You can tell him that you do not wish to drink alcohol, as you are trying to make healthy choices and alcohol is not good for your health.
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    How do I deal with a constantly angry husband?
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    Don't put fuel into the fire. On the other hand, let him be angry by himself and know that he will calm down eventually. If you put more fire into his fire, it may last for more hours or even days than it normally would have.
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    Why is my husband not involving me in the things he does, like how he spends his money?
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    He is possibly just a very independent person who is not accustomed to sharing these things with another person. Explain to him how you feel about it and ask him to involve you.
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    My husband never wants to have sex. What should I do?
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    You need to speak to him about it. Open and honest communication is key.
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    What makes husbands cheat on their wives?
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    It can come from a need for validation, a sense of entitlement, sex addiction, and/or immature impulse control; however, it's never the wife's fault for a husband's cheating, as every adult is responsible for his or her own actions. Men have the same ability that women do to leave a relationship in which they're unhappy to pursue a different one without cheating.
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    My husband is giving his phone attention more than me, so there is no conversation between us. How do I control this?
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    Confront him. Take his phone and hide it. If it gets to the point that he just purposely neglects you, then it may be time to move on.
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    How can I make my husband happy if he is doing drugs?
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    If your husband has a drug problem, you will not be able to make him happy until he deals with it. You are not responsible for his personal problems or addiction. You can only control your reactions to it. You cannot change him, but you can encourage him to get help and support him in his journey towards recovery.
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    How do I know if my husband is cheating on me?
    Community Answer
    Check out the article on How to Find Out if Your Husband is Cheating .
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    I feel my husband is about to commit adultery because he's not that interested at me. What can I do?
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    First of all, pray! Ask God to show you if there's anything you can do to reconnect with your husband and make him feel loved and special. Next explain to him what you know and ask him how the relationship be fixed.
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    How do I stop my husband from drinking beers?
    Tom De Backer
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    This is likely outside of your control. You cannot force him to do anything. But if you feel it gets too much, you cannot be forced to stay with him, either. The best way to tackle is to make him see that drinking too much beer is unhealthy, and drives the two of you apart. He has to realize himself that what he wants is something else than drink beer, and that beer is pushing him away from what he wants: you, being healthy, getting somewhere in life. However, a few beers now and then never hurt anyone.
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    How do I change my marriage when we're both controlling and making the marriage toxic?
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    Seek counseling; there are ways to not be toxic anymore. You can change your mindsets, stop playing games, work to peacefully communicate and live together, learn to listen to and empathize with one another, and have a normal relationship again as long as you both want that. However, the key is that you both have to want that, as well as be willing to put the time and effort into achieving it; nothing will change if you're the only one who wants to do the work. Otherwise, it's best to get out of the toxic environment and work independently on the issues that cause you to be controlling in a relationship (otherwise, you're just going to carry them into every relationship you have).
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    How do I make my spouse happy if they don't listen to me or come home?
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    Your husband is disrespectful. Nothing you do will make him happy because he has made a choice to disrespect you and treat you like a doormat. He comes and goes as and when he pleases, he chooses when he'll listen and won't. This is emotional and mental abuse, it is inconsiderate and he is using you. Seek marriage counselling first, and if he doesn't want to go along with that, then consider your options for taking care of you first. Tell him you are not happy with his actions and that either he shapes up or he can ship out. He needs an ultimatum if he isn't willing to improve things. This is not a case for you to worry about his happiness, it's a case for you to worry about yours.
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    What can I do to stop arguing with my husband?
    Hannah Madden
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    Some arguments / disagreements are normal, but arguing all the time can indicate deeper issues. If you two can't seem to work out your problems on your own, you may consider seeing a couple's therapist.
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