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    What if I think all babies look the same?
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    That's okay! They kind of do. Just be polite and pay the baby a compliment in front of its parents like, "What a cute baby!" You could also just opt to compliment the baby's clothes if you want something specific to say, like, "What a cute onesie!" Parents like compliments like this because they probably chose the child's outfit.
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    What if the parents think the baby is ugly too?
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    You can laugh with the parents, but this behavior should stop as the child grows.
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    What should I do to prevent people from commenting on my child's appearance?
    Community Answer
    Don't comment on it at all yourself. Aside from that, you can't really prevent people from bringing the topic up, but you can quickly redirect the conversation if they do. Simply smile and change the subject. Most people aren't going to flat out call your baby ugly to your face, anyway.
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    How am I supposed to find something cute about the baby to compliment if I think all babies are hideous in every way?
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    Talk about its eyes. Say something along the lines of. "(S)he has your eyes!"
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    What if it looks like a monkey and I can't stop laughing?
    NY Blossom
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    Excuse yourself and let yourself laugh it all out. When you're done, tell them you heard something funny earlier and didn't want to be rude. Try to avoid looking at the baby and eventually it will seem less funny.
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    What do I do if my baby is ugly?
    Community Answer
    You still have to love him and care for him. Remember that a newborn's appearance changes rapidly and so will your opinion.
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    What if the child thinks I'm ugly?
    Community Answer
    That's okay. Kids can be very loud and opinionated. Don't let it bother you. If the child is repeatedly making rude comments about your appearance, talk to their parent(s) about it.
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    Do ugly babies turn into ugly adults?
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    Not necessarily. A person's appearance can change drastically over time. Some ugly babies grow up to be beautiful adults, some don't.
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    What do I do when parents ask me to hold their babies? I do not like babies in general.
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    Unless you have a strong aversion to babies, just hold them for a few seconds and give them back to the parents, saying that you are nervous you will hold the baby the wrong way. Parents are enthusiastic about their babies and might get offended if you don't hold them.
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    Why would anyone shame a baby for its appearance?
    Community Answer
    Immaturity, perhaps. People have all sorts of expectations, desires and fears when it comes to children. There are endless reasons why.
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    What if I no longer want my child?
    Community Answer
    Well, think hard about it and do what you think is right. You should not reject your child simply because it doesn't meet your physical standards, but if you really can't get past it and know you will be unable to love and care for the child, you can give it up for adoption.
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    Well, what if my baby is ugly? What do I do then?
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    Many babies aren't really "attractive" when they're born. But as time progresses, they will start to look great. Don't get hung up on appearance, just love the little bundle of your love made real and care for it. It's a baby, it's not meant to be winning a beauty parade.
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    What do I do if everyone thinks the baby is ugly?
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    If it's your baby, then the baby has a face only a mother could love. Because if it's your baby you will see the beauty in it even if other people don't and it'll be beautiful to you no matter what other people think. And whether or not it's your baby, most ugly babies grow into decent looking kids, some of them even beautiful.
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    What if I think every baby is beautiful in its own way?
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    That's actually very true. If you can't find some outward appearance that's nice (i.e. the eye color makes you want to run off and hide), make a polite comment about the outfit.
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    What does an ugly baby mean? Isn’t every baby cute in their own way?
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    An ugly baby is a baby that doesn't exactly look the way your kind of perfect baby would be. If you can't find anything in the appearance that's nice, make a polite comment about the baby's outfit or start a conversation as to where that kitty onesie was bought at.
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    What can I do if the baby has a creepy smile and I'm terrified?
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    Remember that it can’t hurt you and that creepy is subjective and is you interpretation of the baby's facial movements. If you must, avoid looking at its face and look at its arms or legs instead.
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    What if I reacted to the baby being ugly before and then when I try to compliment it, the parents still think I am being rude?
    KY_GirlatHeart
    Community Answer
    Apologize to the parents and ask for their forgiveness. Next time, just watch your words and stop yourself if you're about to say something unkind about the baby.
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    What if the baby smells bad?
    KY_GirlatHeart
    Community Answer
    They could have either spit up or pooped in their diaper and need to be changed. They might also come from a home where the parents use really strong and offensive-smelling products or smoke. It is impolite to say anything, just make an excuse to move to another room or leave as soon as you can.
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    What if other people told me that my child is ugly just like me?
    KY_GirlatHeart
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    Ignore them. They're not the ones who had your child, and they had no right to say such an unkind thing in the first place.
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