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    How do I make my boyfriend feel appreciated?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Give them a small gift from time to time! A little chocolate or an item that reminds you of him can really help him feel special.
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    How do I tell my boyfriend I appreciate him?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    You can show him in the little things! For example, always keep your word, value his time, and value the commitments you make with him.
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    What is the easiest way to make your boyfriend happy?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Let him be who he truly is in front of you. Really listen to what he has to say, let him express himself in fun and silly ways, and don't try to force him to be someone that he's not.
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    What can I say to deepen my relationship?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Try to clearly communicate how you're feeling, especially if you're feeling unhappy about something. Some people eventually break up because they can't communicate with each other well.
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    How do you respect your boyfriend?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Give him your undivided attention whenever he wants to talk with you. For instance, avoid checking your phone while you're in the middle of a conversation.
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    How do I show my man I love him without being clingy?
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    Follow any of the guidelines here. None of these expressions of affection are being clingy, though different people have different comfort levels. Pay attention to how he reacts to things and try not to do things that make him too uncomfortable.
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    How do I talk to my boyfriend when he is angry?
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    If he is mad at you, there must be a reason. Talk it out, apologize and if the fault was with both of you, you should both forgive and forget. Relationships are fragile, so be careful. Make sure to talk to him in person, not over the phone or by text, to make the conversation more personal.
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    How do I tell if my significant other slapped me in love or anger?
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    It depends on where he slapped you. If he slapped you gently and playfully on your butt or thigh, then it might well be an action of love (or lust at least), with no harm intended. If you didn't like it, tell him as much and if he is a good person, he won't do it again. On the other hand, if he slapped you on the face, on your head, etc., and it was done angrily and with intent to hurt, then it was done in anger and he is a violent person. Don't stay with this person -- a hand raised in anger once will be raised again all too easily and this guy needs anger management.
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    How can I show my long-distance boyfriend that I care?
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    Send him a special surprise, like an edible arrangement or something he's been looking at online or mentioning to you. Even something small will go a long way.
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    How can I earn his love and trust back if I cheated on him?
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    If you admitted to it, or were caught, the trust is probably gone. You will need to try to rebuild it from the ground up (if it is possible at all). He may still love you, or that might go away too. You screwed up here big time, and there is no quick fix. Try talking about it directly with him if you can. Maybe it can work out, maybe it can't. Just remember, you hurt him badly. He will tell you if it is possible for it to be fixed, but don't be surprised if it can't be.
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    How can I not be shy when I want to kiss my guy?
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    Feel the love not the lust. Express your love by giving him a his he deserves. That way you wouldn't ever have to feel shy. If it's your first time, go for a slow kiss.
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    What can I do if he is tired from a long day at work?
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    You can make him his favorite dinner, let him relax, and give him a back or foot rub. You might also ask him about his day. When things are stressful, it helps to talk about it.
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    My boyfriend doesn't hold my hand when we walk on the street. Does he not love me? We fight, but he always says "You're beautiful," etc.
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    People show affection in different ways. Maybe your boyfriend doesn't like to hold hands, but he does other things to show you he cares? Try talking to him about this if it really bothers you. Tell him you're feeling unsure about his feelings towards you. Every couple fights to some extent. If it doesn't work out, remember there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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    Will being clingy help show my boyfriend that I care?
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    No, it will not. If anything, it may push your boyfriend away from you. You can, however, offer to spend time with your boyfriend and do something that he likes. For example, if you like to play video games every Saturday night, but your boyfriend likes to go bowling, you can show him how much you care about him by taking him bowling.
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    I have shown my boyfriend love in all the ways I can and he says he loves me, but he continues cheating on me. What should I do?
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    If he loved you, he wouldn't be cheating on you. Break up with him! Nobody deserves a cheating boyfriend who gives flattery and fake love.
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    Will my boyfriend get the hint if he is benefiting from me doing good things for him?
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    Remember, your goal here is to show your appreciation for him. This type of thing doesn't work if you're just doing it to get him to do something for you. If you want something, ask. It's the easiest way for him to "get the hint."
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    I am a teen, how can I take care of him in a long distance relationship?
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    Long distance relationships are very difficult. But if you are 100% sure that you love him make sure you communicate a lot and try to have an 'appointment' 5 or so times a week where you can just FaceTime. Or try to visit him often out of the blue, I am sure he would be very surprised and feel very loved.
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    What's a "close friend"?
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    Someone who is emotionally close to someone else beyond a normal friendship. Close friends share thoughts and feelings, and look out for each other (giving advice and help).
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    I want to be confident around my boyfriend, but I'm too shy and there's always other girls around him. What do I do?
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    Don't worry about other girls. He's your boyfriend, he likes you! Make an effort to get to know the other girls, and talk to your boyfriend like you would talk to anyone else. He's just a person. The more you step out of your comfort zone, the easier it will become.
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    Is it normal for boyfriends to not hang out with their girlfriends?
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    No, generally the point of dating is to be around each other a lot, so it would be unusual to date someone that you never saw or hung out with.
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    How can I tell my boyfriend I need his presence when he is too busy?
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    Find a time when you can sit down and talk. Explain to him that you feel you need to be spending more time together. If he's busy, that's not necessarily completely his fault, so you shouldn't blame him for that.
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    What does "don't forget to buy milk on your way home" mean? Is it really milk? Why?
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    It means what it says. It's just an example of the kinds of routine, practical texts couples might send each other while neglecting to also say nice things to each other; there is no special meaning to this particular example. It could have been "Don't forget to take out the garbage," or whatever.
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    I lied to my boyfriend. How do I gain his trust back?
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    Once trust is lost, you need to prove that you're worthy of it again, which can take time, patience, and effort. For helpful advice, check out wikiHow articles Earn His or Her Trust Back , Rebuild Trust , and Earn a Girl's Trust Back After Lying (the tips apply to either gender).
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    What should I do if my boyfriend doesn't respond to my texts?
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    If he doesn't respond while he is in class or at work, he's just being responsible and that's not a problem. If he doesn't respond all the time, that's a problem. Talk to him and tell him that you would like him to respond to your texts more.
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    What if he wants to kiss me, but I'm not ready yet?
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    Just tell him that! There's no shame in waiting until you're ready to kiss someone. If he's a good guy, then he will respect that.
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    What should I do if my long-distance boyfriend says I'm not giving him enough attention?
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    You should try to find a little bit more time in your schedule to dedicate to your boyfriend if that's possible for you. If you're too busy to give him the time he needs, then you should probably end the relationship so both of you can find people that you're more compatible with.
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    How can I impress my boyfriend?
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    You shouldn't have to go out of your way to impress your boyfriend, because it might seem like you are craving attention from him. Attention is something that you should already receive in a generous amount from someone who loves you. If you are feeling a bit neglected or like he doesn't appreciate you, just talk to him about it, explain how you have been feeling. It probably isn't his intention at all to make you feel that way.
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    My boyfriend and I just started dating. He broke up with his previous girlfriend to date me. We are in middle school. How can I show him affection that is appropriate so that he won't break up with me?
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    Someone willing to break up with a girlfriend to date you will probably be just as willing to do so to you if he feels someone else is "better". It sounds like he doesn't have a strong sense of dedication or loyalty. There's nothing you can do to change this or prevent him from breaking up with you; this is what's known as a "rebound relationship", and they tend not to last.
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    What can I do to make him feel less embarrassed by our relationship as most of our conversations are awkward even though he writes the sweetest letters to me?
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    Write a sweet love letter back. At the end, say "you don't have to be shy with me. Always feel free to just let it all out in the way that you feel most comfortable." Leave him to choose when it feels right for him to open up more.
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