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QuestionWhat is selfishness in a relationship?Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).Selfishness in a relationship has to do with "I" and "me" always coming first. It means focusing on your golf game or your girls' club and putting your interests first before couples' time.
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QuestionHow do I make myself less selfish?Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).Simply put, stop talking about yourself and your needs or activities. Instead, ask about theirs first. Try this for a few weeks and check out the results.
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QuestionHow do I stop being a selfish partner?Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).Shift the tide...ask about them, help them out in small daily ways with household tasks, and follow-up previous conversations where they have shared something important.
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QuestionHow do I stop being selfish in my marriage?Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).You can do this by getting to know your spouse's schedule, their activities, their wants, etc. You can initiate talking about their day and their worries. And by all means, become intimately familiar with their hopes and dreams.
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QuestionMy friend said I don't listen. What should I do?Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).This article is a great place to start because it contains a lot of good ideas on how you can listen better and be less selfish in general. You can start by asking a question of your friend instead of beginning with some of your own stuff. As they speak, say something like, "uh-huh" or "that must have been difficult." You may be surprised that your friend will notice these small changes fairly soon. Good luck.
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