Are They a Good Friend?

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You have a friend—but how good of a friend are they? Are they a bestie? Or a frenemy?

Answer these 12 quick questions about your pal, and we’ll tell you exactly how good of a friend they are to you. To find out if they’re really your best friend, click “Start Quiz” now.

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Questions Overview

1. Your friend calls unexpectedly. Why do you think they’re calling?
  1. Just to chat, of course!
  2. They were probably bored and wanted to gossip.
  3. They wanted to complain to me about their problems.
  4. I don’t know, but they’re probably going to tease me or make fun of me.
2. You confess to your friend that you’ve got a major crush on someone. How do they react to hearing who it is?
  1. “Fun! You should go for it. Honestly, you’re out of their league, but in my opinion, no one is in your league!”
  2. “Nice!”
  3. “Them? Why?”
  4. “I doubt they’d go for you.”
3. Your crush asks you out! How does your bud react?
  1. They’re super excited for you and want to hear all the details.
  2. They’re happy for you, and then the conversation moves on.
  3. They scoff and say, “Good luck, I guess.”
  4. They’re shocked that your crush even looked in your direction.
4. You just got dumped. What does your friend do when you tell them?
  1. They enfold you in a big hug and say, “It’s going to be OK.”
  2. They say they’re sorry and ask if they can do anything.
  3. They shake their head and say, “Well, I can’t say I didn’t see it coming.”
  4. They laugh in your face.
5. How often does your friend compliment you?
  1. All the time!
  2. Frequently.
  3. Not too often.
  4. Never.
6. You overhear someone gossiping about you, and your friend is in the crowd. How does your friend react?
  1. They defend you immediately.
  2. They sit there silently, but they tell you what was said as soon as the conversation is over.
  3. They laugh and join in.
  4. My friend probably was the person saying mean things about me...
7. You’re going through a tough time. Is your friend there for you?
  1. Yes, definitely.
  2. Sometimes.
  3. Not really.
  4. Definitely not.
8. You’ve got good news. Is your friend one of the first people you share it with?
  1. Yes, the very first!
  2. Definitely one of the first.
  3. Probably not.
  4. No way.
9. Does your friend ever make you feel bad about yourself?
  1. No, never.
  2. Not often.
  3. Sometimes.
  4. All the time.
10. Your friend is having a party. Are you invited?
  1. Of course—I’m co-hosting!
  2. Yes, most likely.
  3. Maybe—haven’t gotten an invite yet.
  4. No, they distinctly said I’m not invited.
11. What do you love most about your friend?
  1. They’re always there for me when I need them, and they know just what to say.
  2. They don’t judge me.
  3. They’re fun.
  4. I’m not sure, to be honest.
12. Do they tell you the truth?
  1. Always, even when it’s hard. But they make sure to do it in a gentle, kind way.
  2. Usually. I don’t think my friend would tell me the truth if it would hurt my feelings.
  3. Maybe? I don’t know.
  4. No definitely not. I’ve caught them lying to me a couple of times already.

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What Makes a Good Friend?

What makes some friends better than others? Sometimes, it comes down to compatibility—you might just have more in common or share more values with one person versus another. Or maybe you’d love to be better friends with someone who’s just not really available for a new friend at the moment, whether because they’re busy, already have a lot of close relationships, or just…aren’t interested (which hurts, but it’s no crime).

But other times, what makes a good friend comes down to a person’s willingness and ability to show empathy, respect, and care to their friends, and the energy they put into keeping up the relationship.

In other words, someone might not be a great friend to you—but whether it’s because they just aren’t compatible or they don’t know how to be a kind, respectful, generous pal just depends on the situation!

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