How to Stop Being Depressed About Love

Co-authored by Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP

Last Updated: March 14, 2024 References

When love turns sour and depression sets in, is there a way out? There is most certainly; everyone has the capacity to reach deep inside and find a way through love gone wrong, or unrequited love. Here are some ways to start improving your outlook about your own future and the role of love in your life.

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This includes trying to make someone love you; it will happen if it's meant to be but if they change and their love for you also changes, it isn't a good idea to take out their choices on your own self-esteem. ^{[1]
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Be patient. Love is a very varied ideal and no two people have the same notion of what it is, or is not. This is often the reason behind why love relationships don't always work out because both parties have different viewpoints of what love is and how it should be impacting their lives. In being patient, you can do several important things for yourself: ^{[2]
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- You can get on with your life and the activities you enjoy
- You can cultivate your interests to the greatest extent possible
- You can open to all the incredible possibilities that are still awaiting you, including and especially love
- You can learn self-patience and apply that to everyday life
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Pursue your hobbies, watch your favorite movies, head outdoors with a trusted friend, etc. When love is getting you down, do something to get on top of the blues. Action is always the best antidote to moping and negativity. ^{[3]
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Look for the lesson. Being rejected is never pleasant but each time something like that happens to us, there is something we can learn about ourselves, about how relationships develop or fade. Look for what you can take from this to apply to future relationships rather than trying to go over what could have been different. A lot could have been different but hindsight does not changes the past; it only informs the future. ^{[4]
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Most humans will experience love at its best and at its worst as they grow through life. Many people know how hard it is to hurt over a lost love; however, the reality is that people move on. Picking up the pieces, taking the lessons with us, is part and parcel of being human.
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Keep seeing people, keep getting out and doing things. Depression has a habit of keeping a person at home, where it feels worse. Getting out more is a key to moving on. ^{[5]
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I don't want to lose my love for him. He lost interest in me. What do I do to get him to love me again?

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If your boyfriend doesn't love you anymore, there's nothing you can do to change that. You should focus on other things, like yourself, and stop worrying about a guy that isn't smart enough to realize how great you are.

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Look at all the bad things about them and remember it's their loss and not yours. If someone doesn't like you back, you should try to find new people.

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It depends on what happened that precipitated the breakup. If it was just a small fight that escalated into a breakup, it's possible you could get back together, but you should really operate under the impression that she's not coming back and just try to get over this.

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It may seem hard now, but the longer the wait the better the relationship will be.

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When in doubt, let it out.

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Everyone's case is different, but the consistent factor is time. It takes time to relax after a breakup, but don't take too long or you'll become too depressed.

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Think before you act - don't do something you will regret!

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Avoid eating or drinking excessively to try to fill your pain. You want to look and feel your best for moving on!

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