Why Do People Stare at Me?

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How your good looks, unique clothing, or outgoing personality might be attracting stares
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They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. But what is a soul really trying to express when they stare at you from across the room with those pearly whites? You’d be surprised, but the answer is usually positive. Perhaps they’re attracted to you, or maybe they’re admiring your drip. Whatever the case, we’ll break down the reasons people might stare at you and provide some clues so that you can narrow that reason down.

1

They think you’re hot.

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    People are often not very good at assessing how attractive they are, and you’re probably a lot cuter than you think you are. The odds are good they’re checking you out —especially if they turn away when you go to look back at them, or they smile at you when you two lock eyes. If you’re into them too, go say hi! [1]
    • Think about how often you’ve been complimented or hit on. If it has ever happened to you, it’s likely the stares are coming from a place of attraction.
    • Remember, if you’re ever uncomfortable with someone staring at you, it’s well within your rights to tell them to cut it out.
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2

You’re wearing something unique.

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    If you’re an especially snappy dresser or you’re wearing something particularly bright or stunning, it’s likely the stares are coming from the less stylish. People are naturally drawn to folks with different fashion tastes. Even something as mundane as dyed hair or a statement necklace can radically pull people in, so consider what you’re wearing. [2]
    • A lot of people even intentionally wear a unique article of clothing as a way to provoke conversation and get attention in public! [3]
3

They’re trying to figure you out.

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    People naturally stare at things when they don’t understand them. Think about the way you may have stared at a friend or family member when you couldn’t tell if they were being sarcastic or not, or the way you might look at a mysterious stranger and try to figure out what kind of person they are. People are the same way. If someone is trying to interpret whether you’re friendly, open to convo, reserved, social, or some other aspect of your personality, they may spend a few minutes looking you up and down. [4]
    • This is more likely to be the case if it’s someone you just met and you tend to be a little reserved in the way you carry yourself.
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4

You’re exuding confidence.

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    Human beings are naturally drawn to leaders, and if you look confident and in charge, it’s likely that you’ll draw a few eyes. Are you standing up straight with your chin high? Are you well-dressed, striking, and obviously comfortable? Are people leaning in to listen to your every word? If any of this is true, you’re just luring the staring strangers in with your assertiveness and coolheaded energy. [5]
    • This is also likely to be the case if you happen to be in a position of power. For example, if you’re the manager running a work orientation, it’s natural if new hires stare a little bit.
5

You stand out from the crowd.

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    If you’ve got piercings, dyed hair, unique makeup, or something else that makes you stand out from the crowd, you might catch some glares from older or more conservatively dressed folks. It’s natural for people to stare at things that make people different. Don’t take it personally! It’s not you. [6]
    • Perhaps you have some unique feature, like you’re exceptionally tall or have bold cheekbones.
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6

They want to talk to you but they’re shy.

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    A lot of people stare as they try to strategize and figure out how to approach someone. It can be a little scary to strike up a conversation with a stranger, and staring is sort of a natural way for people to “face their fears” and compose an opening line in their head. [7]
7

You’re well dressed.

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    Are the people who are staring at you well-dressed themselves? Game recognizes game, and you’ll definitely raise eyebrows from fashionistas if you’re dressed to the nines and did it right. Alternatively, if someone else is seriously underdressed or obviously failed to look in the mirror before leaving the house, they’ll likely stare at you out of insecurity. Own it and be proud! [8]
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8

They’re trying to provoke an interaction.

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    In 1969, Bill Clinton famously stared at Hilary Clinton until she finally got so fed up that she strolled over and said, “If you’re going to keep staring at me, I might as well introduce myself.” [9] If the glares and stares seem a little on the provocative side, do something about it!
    • Feel free to ignore someone if they’re staring at you and you want nothing to do with them. If it’s a cutie pie or a potential friend though, go over and break the ice !
9

You look like someone they may know.

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    Sometimes, people stare for extremely mundane reasons. It’s possible that they’re looking at you and squinting just because they think you might be an old friend. There’s not much to really take away from this one, although you do have a good icebreaker if you want to strike up a convo after they figure out you aren’t their long lost cousin or old childhood neighbor.
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10

They’re looking at something behind you.

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    When you get a minute, casually turn and take a gander at whatever’s going on behind you. If there’s something notable going on (a man on stilts, fireworks in the distance, a screaming child, etc.), they’re probably staring over your shoulder at that.
    • You can also test this hypothesis by walking to another part of the room you’re in. If they don’t pay you any mind, they’re looking at something else.
11

They’re spacing out.

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    We’ve all been bored at one time or another and ended up daydreaming or staring off into the distance. If you’re at a boring event of some kind or you’re at work or school and there’s just nothing going on, the person staring at you may just have landed on you accidentally as their brain was slowly draining of its energy and focus. [10]
    • You can usually tell when someone is bored. If they’ve got that glazed-over thousand-yard stare going, they’re probably just spaced out.
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You’re engaged in an activity they’re about to do.

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    Okay, so you go into a bar you’ve never been in and you’re trying to figure out if there’s a server or if you have to order at the bar. There’s a guy at the bar standing there waiting for the bartender. You’d likely stare at him naturally just to see how he orders so you know what to do! People look to others for information—especially if they’re in a new environment. Don’t worry too much about this one. [11]
    • Another example might be if you’re in line at a water park and the people behind you stare as you get into the slide’s inner tube, just to see how it’s done.
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You two have an intense connection.

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    Do you feel a kind of sudden spark when you make eye contact with someone who is staring at you? If so, maybe this is a deeper signal that you’ve made a connection. Perhaps they’re the peanut butter to your chocolate in a romantic sense, or maybe they’re just going to be a really good friend of yours. In either case, respect what the universe is telling you, and go talk to them! [12]
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There’s a cultural misunderstanding.

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    In countries like China, Japan, and Thailand, maintaining eye contact by looking at someone for an extended period of time is considered extremely rude. However, in some countries staring is either acceptable and normal, or even considered a sign of respect! It’s a show that you’re paying attention, recognizing someone, and/or listening. [13]
    • In parts of Western Europe, staring is extremely normal. Not in the UK, though! The Brits are especially prone to averting their eyes from others.
    • Many African countries consider staring to be a sign of attention and respect.
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They’re being judgey.

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    It’s unfortunate, but people are mean sometimes. As unlikely as it may be, it is possible that someone’s staring at you because they’re judging you. If you think this is the case, don’t let them get to you—nobody looks perfect all the time, and you’ve got nothing to be self-conscious about so long as you’re expressing your truest self. [14]
    • This commonly happens with juvenile adults and kids when they come across someone who is visibly different from them.
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