11 Steps to Attract a Man Who Wants a Committed Relationship

Co-authored by Julianne Cantarella and Hannah Madden

Last Updated: February 1, 2022 References

In the world of modern dating, it can sometimes feel like you’re wading through a pool of people who only want casual flings. If you’re looking for a man who wants commitment just like you do, don’t fret—he’s definitely out there, you just have to find him! That’s why we’ve written this article to help you weed out the casual guys and attract the man of your dreams.

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Join a more serious dating site.

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Pick one that’s known for serious relationships, not hookups. In general, the sites that have you fill out a lot of information before matching you with potential suitors are the ones that will lead you to a long-term commitment. Try sites like OkCupid, Match, and Plenty of Fish, and be sure to include that you’re looking for something serious. ^{[1]
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- Other sites like Tinder, Bumble, and Grindr are fine, but they only match you up based on age range and location. This tends to lead to more casual flings.

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Ask friends or family to set you up with someone.

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Specify that you’re looking for a long-term commitment only. Your loved ones know you best, so they might be able to help find a guy that’s right for you. Ask around to see if your friends or family know anyone who’s single that you might be able to grab a drink with. You never know who you’ll meet through a mutual friend! ^{[2]
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- Going out with a friend of a friend is also safer than meeting up with a stranger. Since you know someone who knows them, you can be fairly certain that they are who they say they are.

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Look for someone who fits into your lifestyle.

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Someone who complements you is much more likely to commit to you. For instance, if you’re a career-oriented person and you want to find someone with the same goals, look for a man with a steady job and a high income. That way, your lifestyles fit together instead of clashing. ^{[3]
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- If you really value family and want to be a stay at home parent, look for a man who wants to be the breadwinner in the relationship.

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Go for an older guy.

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Men aged 28 to 33 are more likely to commit. This stage of life that they’re in is more conducive to settling down and getting married, so it’s a good age range to check out. If you find a guy who’s outside of that range, don’t worry—he might still value commitment! But, you have a much higher chance of finding a guy to settle down with if he’s in that range. ^{[4]
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- Studies also show that once men reach age 38, their commitment levels severely decrease. Again, it’s not impossible, but it is more unlikely.

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