How to Be Kind to Your Sister

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There may be times when you and your sister don't get along with each other, but that doesn't mean you don't care about each other and always have each other's back. If you want to show your sister just how much you love and appreciate her, there are all kinds of nice gestures you can do. Keep reading to learn how to be kind to your sister and show her how much she means to you.

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    Manners are a way of showing respect and thoughtfulness and help the other person to feel cared about.
    • Be polite at all times.
    • Don't argue with your sister or talk back to her. Show respect for her.
    • Don't curse or abuse her. Saying abusive words is a sign of disrespect.
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    If your sister is bored and wants to do something, don't be afraid ask her if she wants to play with you. You can play video games with her if you like. [1]
    • Watch TV with your sister. Play with her every once in a while. You don't have to give up your whole life for her, just about 20 minutes a day.
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    Even if it is just small talk, talking can make you become better friends with her. [2] Ask her about her day and what she's thinking about doing over the weekend.
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    Always help her with her problems. If she needs you, be with her.
    • Don't make your sister feel left out. Never leave or ignore your sister; it can cause her to feel unwanted or useless.
    • Don't act like a mom. Don't judge her. Always remember you're her sister not a parent.
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    Sharing is caring. Remember that she is your sister.
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Dealing with negative aspects of your relationship

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    Don't fight, whatever you do. Instead, try to solve the problems by talking it out. If you need space from one another, then take it and come back and resolve your issues later, in a calm and dignified way.
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    If something bad has happened to you and you think it is your sister don't blame her without evidence.
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    Don't yell at your sister or think that you're the boss. Being loud and spiteful will just make her angry. Be equal siblings. Try to be your sister's best friend.
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    When going through a rough time, what would you want her to do for you in the situation? Always think about her feelings and try to comfort her.
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    If something difficult has happened to her, be there for her and be supportive and attentive. [3] Listen without judging and simply let her know that you are there for her. [4]
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    Help your sister to do her homework, and her chores. Put on some music and teach her some songs to make the time pass quickly. [5]
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    It will make her feel good and helps her to know that she can trust you.
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    She will really like this! Show her you care by making homemade gifts or getting her that special something that she's been wanting forever.
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    Compliment her new hair-cut or something that's new. She'll see that you actually care about her and that you're observant.
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    Do things for her that she never thought you would do. Bring her coffee, buy her favorite breakfast/lunch/dinner/snack/ anything. If you both live in the same house, maybe you should fold her laundry or vacuum her room.If she sees that you can scratch her back, then she'll scratch yours.
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    Nothing is better than a sibling being proud of another sibling. It's encouraging for a sibling to be praised by another sibling. It gets them going. If you show that you are so proud of her and you tell her, then she's sure to say the words "Thank you."
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    How can I get along with my sister?
    Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RD
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    Dr. Supatra Tovar is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY #31949), Registered Dietitian, Fitness Expert, and the Owner of Dr. Supatra Tovar and Associates. Dr. Tovar has worked in the fields of health education, clinical dietetics, and psychology. With over 25 years of holistic wellness experience, she practices Holistic Health Psychotherapy. She combines her psychology, diet, and fitness knowledge to help those struggling with depression, weight gain, eating disorders, life transitions, and relationships. Dr. Tovar holds a BA in Environmental Biology from The University of Colorado Boulder, an MS in Nutrition Science from California State University, Los Angeles, and a PsyD in Clinical Health Psychology from Alliant International University, Los Angeles.
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    To improve your relationship and get along with your sister. Try to be relatable and more approachable. Speak to her with kindness and respect, listen to her concerns and be emotionally available to her. You can also improve your relationship with your sister by doing group activities together.
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      1. ↑ https://www.pbs.org/parents/thrive/how-to-foster-positive-sibling-relationships
      2. ↑ Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY #31949), Registered Dietitian, & Fitness Expert. Expert Interview. 6 October 2021.
      3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/teen-angst/201404/healthy-sibling-relationships
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