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I want to actually talk to my gym crush

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WikiStoatFlyer858

02/04/25 6:12pm

Just a regular guy who goes to the gym here, and I've been crushing on someone who I always see when I'm working out. I know gym crushes are normal, but is it bad if I actually want to go up and talk to them? I'm not sure about the etiquette here and I don't want to sound like a creep, so how can I tell if it's a good idea to say something to them? Has anyone else gone through this and have some helpful advice?

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Courtney Quinlan
Matchmaker & Dating Coach

02/05/25 10:26am

So, I think that's an area that you need to be pretty careful with because you don't want to make things really awkward. So, I would approach that really delicately at first.

Really pay attention to what she likes. If her favorite gym activity is yoga, try to do a yoga class with her. Also, be chivalrous from the get-go by opening doors and doing nice things for her.

Give her space and kind of learn what she's comfortable with when you're interested in her because you don't want to smother her or come on too strong. Ask her questions, and learn more about her. Listen to what she has to say and don't just talk about yourself.

If she doesn't know that you even like her and you've had a couple of conversations already, try putting yourself out there and telling her “You know what, I'm interested. Would you like to go out on a date?” If she tells you she's not interested, then it's probably best to accept it and move on.

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WikiOcelotFlyer849

02/05/25 2:13pm

To avoid being creepy, start with small interactions first instead of just going right up to her and asking her out. Try out a smile first and see if she continues to reciprocate over the course of a few days. Then you can bump things up to nod or a wave and see how she responds. If she clearly ignores you, this is a sign that she's not interested and you can stop trying to interact with her. But if she responds in kind, then you can try striking up a conversation with her.

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WikiAxolotlWatcher104

02/06/25 8:39am

When you approach her, I'd steer clear of making any comments about her body. It's a mistake people make because they're at a gym and it feels natural to compliment someone on their muscles or their physique, but that can make women uncomfortable. Also, make sure not to interrupt her when she's focused or in the middle of a set. Try to approach her near the end of her workout so it's easy for her to leave if she's not interested. Good luck!

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