What are some good deep convo starters to ask?

WikiToadDiver848
12/05/24 8:59pm
Any good deep conversation starters to get to know people better/tips for keeping a conversation going? Drop em here please and thank you

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Lisa Shield
Dating Coach
12/06/24 9:09am
What I recommend to help you have incredible and deep conversations is not to just skip from subject to subject. Very often conversations turn into interviews, where people will ask "How many siblings do you have?" "Where did you grow up?" 'What do you like to do for fun?" "Where did you go to college?" They go from topic to topic. But really great conversation happens when you take one topic, and then you go deeper with it. For instance, you might say, "Where did you grow up?" And the other person may say, "I grew up in Detroit." And you might say, "Wow, tell me about Detroit. What was it like growing up in Detroit?" or "I heard that Detroit is really having a renaissance right now. I heard that the city is really coming back to life," and you can start to really explore that. If you really stick with a single subject, exploring before just going around from topic to topic, it allows for much deeper conversation.
WikiCaribouTamer938
12/06/24 2:31pm
I think to have a deep conversation, you need to first be genuinely interested in the other person and what they have to say. If you're more focused on what you're going to say next instead of actively listening to what they're saying, your conversation isn't going to get very far. When someone says something, pick something out from what they said and ask a follow-up question to allow the two of you to dive deeper into that topic. Also, be vulnerable and open to sharing about yourself. In doing so, you'll build some trust between the two of you, while will make it easier for the conversation to feel deeper. I think anything can be a deep conversation starter. Any conversation can become a deep one if you are open with the other person.
WikiOwlRunner750
12/07/24 11:18am
I like asking people questions about themsevles! This can open the conversation up to personal sharing, which can lead to deeper, more emotionally-intimate conversations. My boyfriend and I have multiple decks of conversational card games that we use to facilitate deep, open conversations between the two of us. We've liked We're Not Really Strangers and BestSelf Intimacy Deck.

Something I like about We're Not Really Strangers that makes it unique from other conversation starters is that it has questions about perception. Questions like "What do you think my defining characteristic is?" gives you a peek into how your partner perceives you, which is super interesting to me. My boyfriend and I played through these decks early on in our relationship and I feel like it helped us grow closer together so much faster.
WikiMongooseDriver598
12/07/24 8:45pm
Here are some deep conversation starters!
- What's something people don't typically know about you?
- What does happiness look like to you?
- When was the last time you cried?
- What are some experiences that shaped your life and who you are?
- What would you do differently if you could go back and change one thing in your life?
- What's something about yourself you're working on right now?
- What are your defining qualities and values?
- How do you think your closest friend would describe you?
- If you didn't have to worry about money, what would you be doing with your life?
- How are you, really?
Anonymous WikiLion
Anonymous WikiLion
12/18/24 2:47pm
What do I ask someone that I am meeting for the first time without being too personal but still showing interest

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