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    Am I allowed to date a coworker?
    John Keegan
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    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Check with your company's relationship policies before asking a coworker out since they may not allow it.
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    How do I ask a girl out at work?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Ask them if they want to spend time together outside of the company. That way, you explicitly let them know that you're interested in them.
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    How can I tell if a coworker likes me?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    They might be interested if they make a lot of eye contact with you, make playful comments, or if they lightly touch you.
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    I want to go out with a coworker i have a crush on. We are friendly with each other & we talk to each other as friends. I ask my co worker questions to get to know him better. Sometimes when I ask him questions he shakes his head, nods, shrugs, & gives me short answers. Why?
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    He may feel uncomfortable getting personal at work, or he may just not be interested. Try to gauge his reactions a little more closely and see if he acts that way because others are within earshot. If he's like that all the time, he may be trying to avoid having personal conversations altogether.
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    What if your coworker says he or she wants to think about it?
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    Be polite and respectful. If your coworker needs to think about whether it would be a good idea, give him/her as much time and space as he or she needs.
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    I get jealous when my co worker crush talks to other people more than me. Is he not talking to me as much because I show that I am interested in him? I always give him compliments such as he has a cute smile when others are around. Did I embarrass him?
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    There are many reasons why your coworker might talk to other people. He may be friends with them outside of work, or he may have known them longer. He might simply be a friendly, chatty person. Getting jealous (especially if you're not actually dating him) will only make the situation more complicated. Give him some space once he knows you're interested and see if he seems interested in return.
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    How do I know if my coworker is interested in a date?
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    They talk to you about things that aren't work-related. They're more comfortable talking to you than other coworkers. They go out of their way to spend time around you. They laugh at your jokes or tease you back.
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    I want to ask out a coworker, but she had an engagement end a month or so ago. I don't want to rush her, but I don't want to miss my chance. How long should I wait to ask her out?
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    3 months. But I would let her know in some subtle way that you are interested now, like tell her she looks really nice one day; you like her jewelry or hair, or compliment her in a deeper way, like expressing admiration for how she handled something at work. If it seems appropriate, I would tell her you're sorry to hear about the engagement ending, but that it's his loss. Then you can gauge how she reacts to this and ask her out in 2-3 months.
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    How do I know if I should ask my coworker out on a date?
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    If you can find out if they're single, if they seem interested in what you have to say and are able ti keep the conversation going with you.
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    So I've been thinking about asking my coworker out, and I think she knows I want to ask, but I'm not sure. How can I tell if she wants me to ask her?
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    Most women know when a man is attracted to them. If you've already been chatting with her at work, and she's not avoiding you—or making it a point to rush away when you're near—then you should go for it. Use the guides here on wikiHow to get some ideas on how to ask her out. At the very minimum—be polite, and be well-groomed when you ask.
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    How do I know if I should give my coworker a gift if I like them?
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    It depends on whether or not you wan them to know you like them. If yes, then give something personal that shows you have been paying attention to their wants, like tickets to a baseball game or a box of truffles. If you don't want them to know, then just give something small like a bloc of chocolate or nothing at all.
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    The article mentions that I should be at the same level of power within the workplace as the person I want to ask for a date, which is true in my case but my sister is our boss. I'm afraid this could pressure her decision. How do I go about asking her out?
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    Get a good understanding of things first, and make it clear to your sister to prevent any unexpected problems. Almost like approval that she won’t be stupid over it.
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    My coworker is uncomfortable with our nine year age gap. How should I go about asking him out on a date?
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    Telling you that he is uncomfortable with the age gap seems like a good way to hint to you that he isn't interested in dating you. Unless you know for sure that he does want to date you, it is probably best to not pursue this person.
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    Is it appropriate for a coworker who is a single woman to ask my husband out for a beer?
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    Yes, it is appropriate for work purposes or collegiality, as long as she does not treat him as her date or potential date. Be very careful when this happens, talk to him about it.
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