Q&A for How to Ask a Girl Out Over Text

If you have seen her recently, then try to come up with an excuse to start a conversation based on your last interaction. For example, if you were recently at a party together, text her something like "Hey, how was the rest of your night?" If you are in a class together, try something like "Are you ready for the test on Monday?"

You may have heard advice that you need to wait 2-3 days so that you don't come off as desperate. This is kind of outdated advice today. Since everyone is carrying their phone with them at all times, it's perfectly fine to ask a girl on a date the day after you first met her or exchanged numbers. Don't worry; it won't make you seem desperate if you ask!

It's not always easy to tell, but she might talk to you more than others, maintain eye contact, laugh a lot at your jokes, respond quickly to your texts, etc. You could also try casually touching her on the arm or leg during conversation and see how she responds. If she smiles, touches you back, etc. these are good signs.

If you have been friends for a while, ease into it slowly. Drop subtle hints that you are interested and gauge her reaction. You don't want to sabotage the friendship you have developed over the years.

You may have exhibited behavior perceived as obsessive or stalker-like. It's also possible they did not reciprocate your feelings and considered your actions to be harassment.

You should plan a first date and take her out. Focus on having an enjoyable time and getting to know each other better, allowing the relationship to progress naturally from there.

Generally, no. It's usually more effective to send more complete and thoughtful messages. However, if this method has been successful for you, you can continue to use it.

You can approach this similarly to a standard text message. Be straightforward and a little flirty; there's no need to beat around the bush.

You cannot force someone to fall in love with you; it must happen organically.

You can still talk and flirt with her until she is ready to date. Be patient and wait for her to be ready.

You might find that many people feel more comfortable expressing themselves openly over text. This is because texting provides a sense of distance and reduces immediate social pressure, which can make them seem shyer in person. In some cases, a person's shyness might lessen as they become more comfortable with you over time. It's also possible they have romantic feelings for you, which can sometimes manifest as shyness in person.

You could say, "I'm sorry about what happened. I love you, and I would like to take you out on a date."

You can show your feelings through actions, such as writing her a poem or taking her on a thoughtful date, and also express them directly by telling her you love her. Actions often speak louder than words.

Given the clear mutual interest, you could be direct. Consider saying something like, 'I've really enjoyed getting to know you, and I'm interested in taking you out on a proper date. Would you be free to [suggest specific activity or time]?'

You could focus on getting to know her better as a friend first. If a natural connection develops, you might find a more appropriate time to express your interest in dating.

Much of the advice in this article can be applied generally to asking someone out over text, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. While the examples may be framed heterosexually, the core principles are often universal.

They are probably waiting for you to make the first move. Try reaching out to them with a simple "Hey" or "Hi" and see what happens.

It sounds like she may have been embarrassed.

Respect her wishes! Education is the top priority. When she gets into college, ask her again.

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