Q&A for How to Get Over a Crush Whose Orientation Doesn't Match Yours

I think he might be unsure about his own sexual orientation; maybe he partially liked it but cannot get over the fact that he might be gay. Maybe he is gay, maybe he is not, or maybe he still doesn't know! Give him time, but don't force yourself on him if he truly isn't interested.

If you want to pursue this, you should. Always remember to be respectful, though. If you don't know which orientation he leans towards, you should try asking him. Maybe by hinting towards your shared kiss. IF he is not into your gender, don't pursue it further, you won't change his mind.

I don't want to tell you to find a new trainer, but if it's completely necessary you probably should. Your crush could become unhealthy and it's easier and more realistic to separate yourself than to get over it.

The easiest way is just to be upfront with it and talk to her about it. But if you are shy, try to give hints like, talking to her about her sexuality, and if you're comfortable, light flirting.

Nothing, people are gay or they aren't. You can't force it on anyone, and you wouldn't want it forced on you.

Well, don't think of being gay as wrong. Being gay is completely normal, or you could also be bisexual, which is also okay! Also, you think someone likes you, which often makes us like that person just because they like you back. I say don't put a label on your sexuality until you know for sure.

The best thing you could do is subtly bring it up in a conversation. Don't tell him that you like him, just subtly explain your orientation to him, and inquire about his. This way you know whether you have a chance or whether you should just move on.

If, upon hearing of your crush on her, she told you she's straight, it doesn't sound like you have many options. Either respect that she loves you as a friend but nothing more, or end the friendship because you can't stand the romantic tension on your end.

It is a very tough situation to be in if you are homosexual and it is prohibited for you. It is important to remember that it is not your fault. It is the way you are. If your parents are also homophobic, it is a lot harder. You basically have two options -- either pretend to be someone you are not, or be open about your sexuality and hope your family understands.

No, it's very unlikely she will hate you, but you can't change her sexuality, so you should be prepared to accept the fact that she's not going to want a romantic relationship with you.

She is probably doing it just as a friend. A lot of girls tend to touch their friends, hug them, etc. If you are really confused, just ask her if it means anything.

Talk to him about it. Ask if he's okay with dating a genderfluid person. He might be fine with it, or he might not feel comfortable. You'll never know unless you ask. If you do decide to have this conversation, let him know he doesn't have to decide right away. He may want to think about it a bit.

Keep your interactions fun and light and just understand that the flirting won't lead anywhere. If that hurts too much, stop the interactions and try to focus elsewhere.

He likes someone else, and he told you he's not interested in you. Even if he's giving you slightly mixed signals, it sounds like it's time for you to just move on.

Is your asexual friend aromantic as well? If so, he will probably not want to date you. Find ways to come to terms with him not being interested.

Sometimes we just have to deal with uncomfortable situations like this. Just keep reminding yourself that nothing romantic is going to happen between you and this girl. Avoid looking at her and thinking about her whenever possible, just focus on the teacher, the lesson, etc. If she's a friend or you have to interact with her, try thinking of her like she's a sister or your best friend's girlfriend or someone else that would be totally off limits.

None of it matters. Love is rare enough as it is, so any chance you have at feeling it, always pursue it. Within limits, of course; be respectful, kind, and stop as soon as the person indicates you should. But always pursue it. Go slow, get to know her and get closer to her; listen to her stories and remember things she says. Give her time to get to know you.

Stop all talk of love. No matter how much you want it, if it doesn't feel the same way for him, it simply can't work. So if you stop talking about it, one of two things will happen: either he will be relieved you're not after him anymore and you two can relax and just be friends again (you win), or he'll realize he liked your attention and make a move on you (you win). Also, get to know him better. The more you know about someone, the smaller the chance you like everything about the person, lessening your infatuation.

It could be that he respects you taking some distance until you've processed this. Take a few days, then strike up a conversation. Hang out, have fun. But do stop the flirting. He may have liked to just flirt with nothing more, but then it was hinted at that you want more, which he couldn't give. This is normal; it happens, and it's exactly the way these things should go. It hurts, but he can't give you what he doesn't have inside of him. So don't worry, as he actually sounds like a very good friend to have in your life won't just walk out on you.

Just tell yourself it isn't going to happen. Use the tips in the article. You can't change someone's sexuality, and you probably wouldn't want to anyway. Try to focus on why you value this guy's friendship rather than your romantic feelings. You wouldn't want to risk screwing that up anyway, would you? You've just become really close; most likely these feelings will fade away a little as time passes, but it might not be a bad idea to distance yourself from him a little bit right now.

Not necessarily. When you go through puberty, you have all kinds of extra hormones in your brain and body, and this can cause physical contact of any kind to feel stimulating. In short, it may have just been that you felt excited about being touched; your body doesn't know or care who is doing the touching. However, if you look at other guys and you feel sexually attracted to them (like you want to date, or have sexual contact with them), then there's a good chance you are gay or bisexual.

Following him on social media? Sure! (Don't stalk people in real life, though, that's not cool.)