Q&A for How to Get over Someone You Never Dated

The first thing to do is to understand the fantasy component of the relationship in your head. It's probable that you don't really know a lot about the person, as you've never dated. Remember that most of the attributes that you connected to them are things that are only on your mind. Then you have to wonder why you feel like you love that person. Put your fantasy in check and learn to identify your needs to get on with your life.

Yes, you can! To get over that, check-in with yourself about how it feels to be in an unrequited love relationship. Do you feel angry? Do you feel betrayed? Are you hurt? Is your self-esteem taking a hit? Answer those questions and try to figure out a way to take care of yourself and to get your needs met, even though the person that you want to be fulfilling those needs can't necessarily do it.

He may have distanced himself from you to avoid getting hurt again. If you're sure that you want to be with him, tell him! You never know until you try. It may help to explain why you chose to reject him in the past, what's changed, and why you won't do anything similar in the future. Good luck!

Moving on from someone who you see constantly can be especially tough. You have to accept his decision though, even if it sometimes seems like he feels differently than he says. But there's a whole school (and world!) filled with people you could like just as much as him. Make a list of the qualities that bother you about him, then start trying to move on. You deserve to be with someone amazing who likes you back!

You're not alone, and there are so many resources out there to help you feel like yourself again: In the US, call 800-273-TALK. In the UK, call 116 123. In Australia, call 13 11 14. In other countries, visit one of these sites to find a hotline: befrienders.org, suicide.org, or the IASP website.

So often, even when we care about someone, there are reasons that a relationship just won't work out. It's such a challenging situation, but it's great that you had the strength to leave. Now, focus on you! Go enjoy to something you love, reach out to a close friend, or spend time enjoying one of your passions. You did something hard—so you deserve to feel treated!

Wow, that's tough. You deserve to be with a partner who appreciates you in the same way you appreciate them. So, go find someone who can give you what you're looking for. You may still want her in your life as a friend down the line, but make sure you let your heart heal first.

Realize that someone who treats you badly is not worth your time. True friends and emotional partners (boyfriends, girlfriends, etc.) value you and will, in turn, treat you kindly and with respect. There is no easy way to let go of someone, however. Just let go bit by bit, and you'll notice you will think about them less and less.

Ignore them back. If they can't see how great you are, they don't deserve you. Move on and find someone else to crush on, or just focus on yourself.

You can still go out even if you're going to different schools. You can hang out on the weekends, talk, text, etc. Lots of people don't go to the same school as their boyfriend/girlfriend. If you don't think this will work out, just do your best to move on. It will be fairly easy if you're going to different schools, as you won't have to see them often.

Tell them you don't want to be their friend anymore. It's your right to do so, you don't owe anyone your friendship, and you shouldn't continue being friends with someone who mistreats you.

Accept that a relationship isn't going to happen. Try to think of him as just a friend or even a brother. Focus on his flaws instead of the things you like about him. Distract yourself by focusing on your studies or your hobbies and remember that there is someone out there for you, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

There's some good advice in Get Over Someone You Love .

The best thing is to reduce contact with him/her. This will help you not to think about your friend.

It's okay to take a little time away from that person. You don't have to be friends right away, especially if you think that would make getting over this harder for you. Just remember that there's nothing you can do to change their feelings and try to accept it.

Yes. It would help keep your mind off of him and in moving on.

You may find some helpful advice in Get over Someone That You Know Doesn't Like You .

You have to be supportive of your friend, and for sure don't talk to him while she is because then you may lose a friend too. The best way to get over him is by finding someone else to focus on, while focusing on yourself.

The best way to get over someone that you have to see a lot, like a work crush, is to admit to yourself that they don't feel the same way. When you really understand that reality, it's going to hurt, but it will oftentimes lessen your feelings. That person doesn't like you, even if you would like to imagine that they do. It's a tough pill to swallow but once you swallow it, those positive feelings tend to dissolve quicker than you may think.

Then clearly they don’t deserve someone like you. Someone who plays with your feelings is not a nice person in the first place, so never fool yourself you like this person. Probably you find their physical self attractive more than their personality, so try your best to fall out of love.