Q&A for How to Handle House Guests That Stay Too Long

I suggest you tell them you have some cleaning to do around the house and you don't want to make them uncomfortable. You could also tell them you booked a last-minute trip and need them to leave early.

Tell them you have plans for one of the last days they will be there: "Oh, I didn't realize you had planned to stay so long. I'm sorry that won't work out. We have plans that day."

If you haven't already spoken to them directly, tell them that if they do not leave you will be forced to call the police. Do this with a friend for support. Once they're out, change the locks and be done with it.

If you have already told them to leave and they still refuse, you should call the police. Not only is this your and your family's house, but your child's place as well. Strictly talk to the children making your child uncomfortable. If this does not work, talk to their parents.

Call the police and file a complaint and a restraining order.

Yes. Tell the house guests that they are no longer welcome. After notifying them of this, if they refuse to leave, they are trespassing, and you can call the police.

Talk to your husband about the problem. Tell him it is your home as well and that you appreciate his generosity but not the fact that people are invading your space and causing you both to spend more money. Explain to him that the people staying there will never learn independence if he keeps sheltering them, and that that is unhealthy for them. Ask him to confer with you before allowing the people in and set deadlines on their stay, both with your husband and then both of you reiterating this to the person staying. When the deadline is reached, pack their bags for them if they haven't already, as the contract is up.

Tell them it is not a good time. If they ask why, you can make something up, or better yet, tell them you already have plans/already have guests coming. If that isn't good enough for them, they are being rude and you can tell them that. It is not appropriate for someone to invite him/herself over to your house.

Talk to her about it. If she's invading your space, you need to get her to do what it takes to find some other place to live.

Offer gentle hints, but if they do not respond after a few days, ask them up front why they have not left yet. Tell them they need to pay rent if they intend to remain in your home.

Follow each of the steps in this article, but check to see if there are any family problems. It's possible that they could be using your house as an escape route. If they are close to you, try talking to them.

Offer to help her before sending her on her way politely.

You have to tell your in-law that it's bad manners and disrespectful to invite people to someone else's house without their consent. Now that he has a new apartment, just calmly tell him that you need your space back, and it's time for him to move out.

Do not accept any abusive behavior from anyone, no matter who they are or where they live. Set strong boundaries as to what behavior is acceptable. If you don't want her to live with you anymore, you have every right to demand she moves out. Paying bills does not give her the right to stay. Sit her down and talk about it. Just because you decided something two years ago, doesn't mean you can't change your mind. If there are legal matters involved, ask a legal expert for advice. But in general, if you want her to leave, that is enough to obligate her to leave.

If she is reasonable, kindly tell her that you have enjoyed her visit and that you are sorry to see her go the following morning, but that you will have to get together another time soon. If she offers to stay, tell her it won't work because you have plans, but that you'll see her soon and thank her for coming. If she is not reasonable, allow your husband to deal with her.

It doesn't matter where they are from, or if they have another place to stay. If you no longer want them at your place, the rest is their responsibility, not yours. You can make clear arrangements, e.g. "OK, you can stay one more week, and I'll help you look for a place, but no matter what, after that, you have to leave".

I think you should try talking to your dad because this seems like a very toxic, and unhealthy situation. Explain that it is nice of him to give them a place to stay, but they are overstaying their welcome.

Say something like: I really should get going, I don't want to keep (make up someone) waiting. You could also try saying that It was nice staying but I have work/school/hobby in the morning.

Your mother is in charge in her own house. If she has agreed to him staying at your place, then that's that. However, you have a right to let her know that this is making you uncomfortable. Everyone living in one place should be respected. In addition, the house guest can be expected to do his best not to put extra stress on any of the other people living in the house. However, he may not be aware of your thoughts and feelings. In conclusion, talk to your mother first, stress how you feel and if necessary push for a conversation with all people involved and outline your expectations.

I would suggest you say "Mom, dad, I think it is time for so-and-so to leave." Then you can begin to have the discussion. If they are elderly and you suspect they are being taken advantage of, say so!

Tell him that next winter you are going to invite other friends/family to come and stay, so he will need to make other arrangements. That way he has plenty of time to plan for finding other accommodations.

Make clear arrangements. You are the house owner, so whatever you want or decide must be respected. If you don't want her son to stay any longer, he has to leave. Sit down and make plans. Set a time limit. Ask friends to come over and help you with this conversation if you get overwhelmed.

It really depends on how long you are comfortable with him staying. If you think that is too long, then just tell him you'd rather it be a shorter visit.

You could just tell them that you would like to restrict their visits to every other weekend, once a month, or some other set time frame. Don't be afraid to set boundaries for yourself!

Ask them if they are looking for a new place. Do they have a job? Give them a deadline to move out. You need your space and privacy, and this will end up affecting your finances. Stick up for yourself. Your friend deserves honesty, so don’t make something up. If they are taking advantage of you, they are not your friend.

Make an effort. If you're all sleeping in until 9:00, maybe get up at 7. Let him know this. "Just for you, we're all making an effort to get up early so we can enjoy your company longer." In return, ask him to be very quiet if he wakes up earlier. He's still a guest in your house, no matter how closely related he may be. Your house, your rules.

Firstly, I would recommend making sure that the house is cleaned and that the fridge is stocked with food. Also, I would make sure that the sheets in the guest bedrooms are new and that there is plenty of room for them to store their items. Your guest probably isn't expecting you to entertain them 24/7, so don't stress too much about being an introvert. If you find yourself needing some space, just tell your guest you're going to read for a bit, grab a book, and head outside or pop in some earbuds.

I don't think the law should be involved unless your wife is involved in criminal activities with her guests. Did you talk to your wife about how you find what she does intrusive? If she's a "social butterfly," she may not even know how much it upsets you.

Tell them that you're having financial trouble and that if they're going to stay with you for an extended period of time, they need to pay rent.

Have clear boundaries. He cannot run the show. You have the right to your space and he needs to respect you. If not, state your needs clearly.