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    Should I text a girl I just met, or call her?
    Imad Jbara
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    Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth.
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    I think a lot of the magic and spontaneity of conversation is lost when you're not having an organic chat. There's nothing wrong with texting if you're just trying to break the ice or you're too nervous to talk, but I think you're more likely to make progress if you give her a call!
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    What if I already told her how I feel about her and things just got more awkward but we are still talking, How do I start a conversation when things are a little awkward then?
    Community Answer
    Still talk to her to show that you aren't afraid of confessing and getting rejected. Just pretend everything is normal now.
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    Does a girl like if I know a lot of things about her?
    Community Answer
    Not if she hasn't told you. That might just come of as creepy! You should try to remember the things she tells you though because you'll prove you are a good listener.
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    What if she's going out with someone else?
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    If she has a relationship with someone, just get to know her as a friend. If she breaks up with the other person, she will already know you and will perhaps start to think of you romantically.
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    How do I text a girl I just met?
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    Just casually say "Hey" or "Hey, how are you?" and see how she responds. If she asks you questions about your day or how you are, then you do the same. Keep the conversation exciting. Don't text for too long. Keep her on her toes. And if she texts you first one day, that's a good sign.
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    What if I got her number from her friend?
    Community Answer
    Introduce yourself. Tell her who you got her number from and tell her why you wanted it.
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    What questions can I ask a girl?
    Community Answer
    Ask her about what activities she enjoys, what kind of music she listens to or what she likes about her job or school.
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    How do I text a girl when I am afraid to?
    Community Answer
    Just relax. Ask here how she is doing and then just go from there.
  • Question
    How do ask a girl out?
    Ellie Smale
    Community Answer
    Try not to ask too many questions. Instead, you could say something like "do you want to meet out somewhere for a coffee?" or something along those lines. If you know each other really well and you've met lots of times, you could just go in and ask.
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    How do I text someone that I like her without directly saying it?
    Carlee Michel
    Community Answer
    Ask, "Do you want to hang out sometime?" Hang out with her, and when the moment comes, ask her out.
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    I met a lady only for 2 days ago and it was so nice as we had a lunch and dinner. Since then, she hasn't respond to me well and doesn't ask me about anything, does she still like me?
    lucien huntley
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    It sounds like she is no longer interested or something in her life is bothering her. Over time people change and react differently to different situations. Your best bet is to ask her.
  • Question
    How do I talk to my crush at school when she is with her friends?
    Community Answer
    Some girls would much rather be asked out by themselves, but some like being talked to in a group of friends. It makes them feel more confident. Just go up to her and be yourself.
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    How do I attract a girl to me?
    Community Answer
    This article should help: how to get a girl to like you .
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    How do I tell her that I like her?
    Community Answer
    Be subtle about it and not too desperate. Ask about how her was day and be flirty. She will get the vibe.
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    How do I make sure she doesn't like anybody else?
    Community Answer
    Ask, "Who have you been hanging out with lately?" If she keeps talking about one person in particular, it's probably him that she likes.
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    How can I make her laugh in the middle of the conversation?
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    Casual jokes work the best. Joke about something you have in common, and that includes people, classes, problems, etc.
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    How do I chat with a girl in a romantic way?
    Community Answer
    Listen to what the girl says. Pay attention to her interests and talk to her about them. Help her with any issues going on in her life. Support her. Maybe gently tease her in a friendly way. And most important, show her that you care. Don't try to confuse the girl, just tell her what needs to be said and make sure she knows how much you really care about her. Don't change yourself, just be you, and be the most helpful and supportive person you can be.
  • Question
    What message can I send to my newly found crush?
    Community Answer
    Try to find something to ask for help with. Hopefully, you can carry on a conversation that leads to something deep and meaningful.
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    What to do if she doesn't reply to my messages?
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    If she doesn't respond, she doesn't want to talk to you. You can ask her a time-sensitive question, like, "Hey, there's a 7:00 movie tonight. Wanna go?". If she doesn't respond, you'll just have to cut your losses and move on.
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    How do I get a girl to start the conversation?
    Tom De Backer
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    If you consider the start of the conversation to be when an actual topic is decided upon, you can ask her about something that interests her. She will have started the conversation, even though you said the first words. If you want her to say the first words, settle in for a long wait. She's not keeping silent, she just doesn't know you're waiting for her to start it. So just say hi, ask her about something she mentioned earlier.
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    How do I find out if a girl likes me in 5th grade without showing her I want to know?
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    You can tell she likes you if she makes eye contact, leans your direction when you talk, if she sits right next to you, and if she smiles and looks at you.
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    What should be the starting question? We work in the same office.
    Community Answer
    You could start with "How is your day?".
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    How do I start a conversation (by text or in person) if there's nothing to talk about, but I still want to talk?
    Community Answer
    Try just saying, "Hey, how are you?" or, "How was your day?" If you're talking in person you could pay her a compliment, like, "You look nice today," or, "I like your shoes," etc.
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    How do I get a girl to talk to me if she is mad at me?
    Community Answer
    Send her a joke or a funny meme. If she doesn't respond, pretend it was meant for someone else. This has worked well for me.
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    How long can the chats go for?
    Community Answer
    As long as both of you want to chat.
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    What are some examples of things I could text?
    Community Answer
    Text something interesting you think she would like or start with a simple, "hey" or "how are you doing?"
  • Question
    What does it mean when she starts all her texts with "haha"?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    It could mean a thousand things, but most likely it means nothing at all. Don't think too much of it. It could the 'haha' from Nelson in The Simpsons, or it could be 'haha that's funny', or 'uhuh I agree', or 'haha - I invented something!' But really, it's most probably nothing at all, just her way of opening a sentence when texting, to indicate the lighthearted tone of what will follow. You can always just ask her, just try not to make her feel uncomfortable about it. Just enjoy your conversations and don't think too much of it.
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    I met a waitress at Applebee's this afternoon and came back for drinks tonight. I caught her right before she got in her car and got her number. How do I start texting her? Do I ask her out right away?
    Community Answer
    Don't ask her out right away. Say "hi," maybe ask her how her day/night is going. Chat about her job, or make other light conversation. You could segue into asking for a date by saying something like, "So, what do you like to do (or where do you hang out) when you're not working?" or "Seen any good movies lately?"
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    Why is it hard to talk to girls?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    Because it shows what we want, it opens up our deepest desires, and that means we run the risk of getting hurt. There are many ways to counter this; let's look at two. Accept that you will get hurt very often. It is much more likely that she will not love you back, and that's all right, because once you find someone who does, all else will have been worth it. So talk to her as soon as you like her, before your feelings grow too deep - the deeper they grow, the harder the hurt. Also, talk to girls more often, whether you're romantically interested in them or or not. Doing anything more often improves your skill.
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    The girl I like gave me a smile this morning, so what's the next step?
    Community Answer
    Walk up to her and start a conversation. Maybe ask her how her day is going.
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