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    I like both genders but I like girls a bit more. Am I still bi?
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    Definitely! You could be bisexual with just a more female preference. This is totally normal!
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    I don't feel like I have a gender, and I'm into both genders, but I rarely want to have sex with anyone except for people I've known for a while. Is this weird?
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    I'd identify you as an agender, biromantic, demisexual person. Agender means without gender, biromantic is feeling romantic (not sexual) attraction toward both genders, and demisexual is only feeling sexual attraction to someone whom you share a strong emotional bond/connection with. This is not weird, and you're not alone.
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    I'm a girl and I'm attracted to both genders. But, I'm not sexually attracted to guys. What am I?
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    You might be a biromantic homosexual. Study the difference between romantic orientation and sexual orientation, and see which terms fit.
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    I don't like either gender, romantically or sexually. I don't love anyone except for family and friends. What does this mean?
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    In that case, you would be aromantic and asexual.
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    I like both genders, but not sexually, would that count as asexual?
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    Yes, it would. Also, since you are romantically attracted to both sexes, you would be considered biromantic asexual.
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    I like "boy" clothes and sometimes I want to be a boy. Am I agender?
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    You might be genderfluid or a demiboy. Research the different types of genders, and see which words fit best for you. The LGBTQIA community can help you figure out who you are.
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    I'm a girl. I like men, but I also like women, or at times don't event care the person's gender if I'm attracted to them. What is my sexuality?
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    Most likely, pansexual (attraction regardless of gender). Read a bit about it and see if it fits you. Otherwise, you may identify as bisexual (attracted to same and other genders).
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    I am 13 yrs old and I have come out as aromantic/ace to three friends. One doesn't believe me, and my parents don't believe someone of my age knows yet. What can I do, and how can I come out?
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    I'm aroace too, and I'm 22. I experienced zero attraction at your age, although I didn't have a word for it yet. Sexual/romantic orientation typically fully develops during preteen years, so you're old enough to have a very good sense of yours. Unfortunately, other people can be very uptight about young teens identifying as anything but straight. Recognize that it may take a few years for your parents to come around. Keep being yourself, and recognize that you may have to come out more slowly and gradually because people can take a long time to be willing to understand. And remember: you're valid. Find community and support where you can.
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    I'm a male that wants to be female, but am still attracted to girls. What is the term for this?
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    You are a trans girl/woman, who is gay (or bi/pan, if you like guys too). This is completely normal. Remember, your real gender is the one in your heart, not what's between your legs.
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    What is the word for when society doesn't like trangender people? For example there's a word for when society is racist for sexist, what about for transgender people?
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    "Transphobia" has been used in the past, although it is controversial because "phobia" suggests an anxiety disorder, when anti-trans hate is a choice, not a disability. Cissexism, "anti-trans discrimination," or something similar may work better.
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    I like girls and I am a girl, but I don't want to have sex. Is there a term for this?
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    Yes, homoromantic asexual. This is perfectly normal.
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    What do I call a niece that has just come out as agender?
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    The gender-neutral term is "nibling." If they don't like that, just use their name and/or say "my brother/sister's child."
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    What is it called when a girl mostly likes guys but also likes girls? Would this still be considered bisexual?
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    Yes. She might be a 1 or 2 on the Kinsey Scale. She might call herself bisexual, pansexual, or "heteroflexible" (a more casual term).
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    Do I have to identify as a sexual orientation?
    Ashleigh Wampler
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    You don't have to, but if you're the type of person who doesn't care about gender, you may be pansexual.
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    Can I be bi curious? And if so, how do I know for sure?
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    It's possible to be bi curious, which is more commonly referred to as "questioning." Only time and experience will tell. Try casually dating, and see what happens. (Be careful not to lead people on, if they want more than you do.) Be patient with yourself, and see what you discover.
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    I was born male, but I love to dress up and be female. I am also attracted to both men and women. What am I?
    Pearlescent
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    I would say that you are bisexual, because you like partners of both genders. If you like to be female, as in asking to be called by female pronouns regularly, but you also identify as male sometimes, I'd say you're also gender-fluid.
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    I am a girl. I like guys, but I am attracted to some girls. What does this mean?
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    You may be either bisexual (this means you are attracted to both genders) or pansexual (which means you aren't attracted to genders but are attracted to people for being people). Both are ok!
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    Has science proved that Androgyne is a thing? I feel both but I don't know if I'm over thinking or feeling it.
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    Identity is more about feelings than it is about data, so you don't need to rely on science when looking for words that describe your identity. If you think Androgyne fits, then use it! Try reading more from the LGBTQIA community to find others like you and learn about your identity. Defining your gender is a journey, so don't be afraid to learn and experiment.
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    What if I like boy's clothes, and sometimes I feel like a boy, sometimes like a girl, and I'm attracted to boys and girls?
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    Your identity may be "genderfluid" or "genderqueer," your sexuality pansexual, bisexual, or queer. Reach out to the nonbinary community, hear their stories, and see what you relate to
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    I realize I am heteromantic bisexual because I am sexually aroused by both men and women but if sexually I prefer the same sex then what would that be? Is there a term for a bisexual that prefers one sex over the other?
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    Look up the Kinsey Scale. You might be a 4 or 5 on it.
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    I don't know whether to be a male or female, and I want to be both. Is there a term for this, or am I just strange?
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    This could be bigender or nonbinary, where you associate as both, or don't fit into either gender and are just you. This is quite common and is a perfectly legitimate gender identity.
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    If you're straight and asexual, what is that called?
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    Heteromantic asexual. Because of asexuality, most people wouldn't consider you completely "straight," and you are part of the LGBT+ community.
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    I'm a girl, and sometimes I'll see another girl and think "They're hot." Same thing with guys, but I'm not really sure about the whole sex thing. It just sounds kind of gross and not fun. What am I?
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    This may just be because of your age. People mature at different times sexually, and it's not unusual to not be interested in sex as a teen/young adult. That being said, you could also be asexual, or biromantic asexual, depending on whether or not you're interested in relationships/dating.
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    I like girls romantically, but not sexually. (I'm female.) I have no attraction to guys. Does that make me gay or asexual?
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    Homoromantic asexual would probably be the most accurate term, but you should feel free to identify in whatever way makes you most comfortable.
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    I'm a girl, I identify myself as bisexual, but I'm more attracted to women than I am men. Am I identifying myself incorrectly?
    Ashleigh Wampler
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    No. Bisexuality is different for many people. Some people lean more towards women, and others towards men. Some don't even have a preference. It's different based on the person.
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    I am sexually attracted to both men and women. What am I?
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    Bisexual or pansexual. Read about both, and see which term is a better fit.
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    I'm not sure what gender I am. My pronouns are she/they. What gender am I?
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    Do some research on different gender identities and see what feels right to you. It's not possible for someone to tell you what your gender is by pronouns alone.
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    What is the difference between sexually attracted and romantically attracted?
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    Sexual attraction means that you want to have sex with someone. Romantic attraction means that you are interested in being in a relationship with that person and sharing your time with them.
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    I'm sure I'm agender, but my gender presentation changes (sometimes I present as feminine, sometimes masculine, and sometimes androgynous). What am I?
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    If you feel like you are sometimes a girl, sometimes a boy, sometimes neither, you would be genderfluid. If you only present as different genders, but never actually identify as male or female, you are agender, or more generally just nonbinary.
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    Legally, I'm a guy, but I don't want to be. I also don't want to be a girl, but I'm attracted to girls. What am I?
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    You could be non-binary, which is an umbrella term that describes any gender identity that is not male or female. As for liking girls, you could call yourself "womasexual" or "gynesexual." These are terms for being attracted to women that are not dependent on your gender, as "lesbian" or "heterosexual" would be.
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