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Do you have a day all to yourself but aren’t sure what to do? Rather than planning something with other people, taking yourself out on a date is the perfect way to experience life on your own. Solo dates are a blast, and they’re also great for learning more about what you want and need from your other relationships. Whether you want simple, fancy, active, or relaxing date ideas, we have you covered. Keep reading, and we’ll help you find the perfect date to take yourself on.
This article is based off an interview with our professional dating coach, John Keegan, founder of The Awakened Lifestyle. Check out the full interview here.
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Classes let you learn new skills and meet people with similar interests. Check your local community center, library, or university for any workshops or classes that intrigue you. Do you want to learn how to dance or add some new recipes to your repertoire? Then sign up for that dance lesson or cooking course you’ve been eyeing up! [1] X Research source
- Check on apps like Meetup for workshops or classes held by other social clubs in your community. For example, if you’re interested in writing fiction, there are bound to be a few writing groups holding meetups and seminars.
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Fill your calendar with fun events to get involved and out of the house. Is there an art festival or a convention coming through town soon? RSVP to the event, and make it a point to spend time there. Go all in at the event trying some new activities, talking to some new people, and just having fun with the folks around you.
- Try Googling the name of your city plus the phrase “events this week” to find a breakdown of what’s happening in your area.
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Get fit and boost your self-confidence with some fitness classes. Whether you’re a beginner or a seasoned pro, check out what fitness classes are available at the gym, yoga studio, or local community center. As you do yoga or exercise as part of your regular routine, focus on how good your body feels when you’re being active, and you’ll feel a ton of self-love coming your way.
- Many yoga studios or gyms offer free or discounted introductory classes so you’re able to try them out before spending any money.
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Explore your passions to continue learning and growing. If you’ve always wanted to try things like crocheting, playing an instrument, or learning a new language, now’s the perfect time to try them out. Carve out some time in your schedule for your hobbies and don’t be afraid to make mistakes along the way. With a bit of practice, you’ll start mastering the skills you need for it in no time.
- It’s okay to stop doing an activity if you’re not feeling excited or engaged with it. It might just mean that it’s not the hobby for you, but there are tons of other things to try.
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Not sure how to cure a case of boredom? Being bored can drain your energy and bring down your mood, which is why we’re here to help you out—and hopefully make your day a little more interesting. We’ve prepared a handy quiz to help you narrow down that list of activities and find a fun pastime that you’ll truly enjoy!
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Who do you spend the most time with?
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Have a fun afternoon outdoors with your community and some fresh food. Check when your town runs its farmer’s market and take your time checking out the vendors from your community. Feel free to stop by each one to try out any free samples they have, enjoy live music, and chat with people that live in the area. Just don’t forget to pick up some fresh produce or handmade crafts before you leave.
- Farmer’s markets usually run on weekends during the summer and fall, but they may go year-round if you don’t live in a place with freezing winters.
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Museums are perfect if you want a quiet, informative self-date. Get to the museum right when it opens so you’re able to spend the full day exploring it. Spend time walking through the exhibits and reading about them so you fully absorb all of the information you’ve learned.
- If general history museums aren’t your thing, check if there are any specialty museums in your area. You may find museums about aeronautics, toys, maritime history, or another niche topic.
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Find your new favorite artist as you look at their work. Are you an art lover and want inspiration for your next creative work too? Look for a fine art gallery to check out paintings, drawings, sculptures, and more from local and world-famous artists. Really take a few moments to look at the art and notice the finer details so you get a better appreciation for the hard work it took.
- Keep your eye out for gallery openings or artist receptions. Many times, the artist may be at the gallery so you can talk to them about their work.
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Enjoy the calm ambiance and some flavorful drinks all by yourself. Be adventurous next time you pop into your local cafe or tea shop by trying out something you haven’t had before. Once you have something to drink or eat, pull up a chair to read a book, write, or people-watch.
- Many cafes and teas cycle through seasonal menus, so ask what the special drinks are. In the fall, try a delicious pumpkin spice latte, and in the winter, treat yourself to a peppermint mocha.
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Cool down with a sweet treat you haven’t had before. Have you always wondered what that rainbow-colored Tooty Fruity ice cream tasted like? Now’s your chance to try it. Don’t be shy and ask for samples of all the flavors that you haven’t had before. Maybe you’ll find a new favorite you never would have tried otherwise!
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Don’t be afraid to go to the movies on your own. If a movie just came out that you’re excited to see, get a ticket and head out to the cinema. Grab some popcorn, candy, and a soda, and sit down to enjoy the flick. Since you can’t talk during a movie anyway, it’s the perfect solo date for you. [2] X Research source
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Check out live music for an energetic night out. Whether it’s your favorite band or a small local artist, get a ticket and rock out to their performance. Dance along to the beat and sing at the top of your lungs if you know the words to make the most out of your night.
- Sign up for mailing lists from venues in your area so you’re able to see what artists are coming through your area soon.
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Share your love with the puppies and kittens that don’t have a home. Contact your local shelter and ask if you’re able to spend a little time with the animals. Give all the animals a good pet and play with them so they get all the love and attention they need. All the cute, cuddly creatures are bound to make you smile as you bond with them.
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Try a little retail therapy if you have some extra spending cash. If you want to update your wardrobe or get new decor for your home, visit your favorite stores and check out what they have. Try on a ton of new clothes to see what you love and fill up your cart. Don’t be afraid to spoil yourself a little and get the things that you’ve always wanted. This is a date after all!
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Take yourself out to the ball game if you’re a sports fanatic. Whether you’re a fan of baseball, football, hockey, or any other sport, check the schedules for your favorite teams to see when they’re playing nearby. At the game, enjoy some stadium food and cheer on your team with the other fans for a fun, active night out.
- If your city doesn’t have a pro team, check for minor league or community teams to support. You could be the #1 fan at your town’s softball league or community basketball games.
- If you’re still in school, check out what sports are currently in season and check out your school’s team to cheer them on with the rest of the student section.
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Giving your time and energy to others helps you feel more fulfilled. If there’s a cause you’re passionate about, Google it with the name of your city and “volunteering” to find opportunities in your community. Find a time to get involved and put your whole heart into the cause, so you’re sure to be proud of the work you’re doing.
- Need some ideas? If you love animals, check if you can volunteer at your local animal shelter. If you’re involved with social justice, check if any organizations help support unhoused neighbors in your area.
- If you’re still in school, check with student orgs to see what they’re doing to help out the community around you.
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Let out some stress by breaking things on purpose. Rage rooms give you a ton of objects that are easy to break and all the tools you’ll need to smash them. Unleash your inner anger and destroy everything in the room to get rid of all that built-up stress or tension. [3] X Research source
- Some rage rooms let you bring your own objects in to destroy if you have any old keepsakes you don’t want anymore.
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Catch a show on stage for a night out at the theatre. Check the schedule from any community productions or the performing arts center in your area, and get a ticket to a play that intrigues you. Spoil yourself with some of the best seats in the house so you’re able to enjoy the whole performance up close.
- Want a more formal night out? Dress in your finest clothes and get a ticket to the opera.
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Spend some time in the sun by the water for a relaxing summer date. Pack your beach towel, sunscreen, and some snacks, and head out to the beach. Soak up some rays as you tan, dip into the water, and enjoy your time outdoors while it’s still warm out.
- If you don’t live near the beach, heading to your local outdoor pool is a great option too.
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Act like a celebrity and be the star of your own shoot. Ask one of your friends or hire a professional photographer to take pictures of you. Style your hair, put on your most stylish outfits, and strike a few poses for the camera. Show off your biggest smile so anyone who sees the pics knows you’re happy and thriving living the single life.
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Unleash your creative energy so you’re able to express yourself. Take out some paper, pencils, paints, or any other art supplies that you own and just start creating. Even if you don’t have any ideas of what to make, just start doodling to see what comes naturally. At the end of the day, look back at the work you created and be proud of your original art!
- If fine art isn’t your thing, look for other ways to be creative. You could try something like freewriting or designing your own clothes .
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Even a chapter a day can help you feel more self-love. Find the coziest spot in your home, make some coffee or tea, and nestle into a book you’ve been wanting to read. Escape into a fantasy world with your favorite novel or learn something new with non-fiction. Spend as long as you want reading, but try to make it part of your regular routine. [4] X Research source
- Take a book with you wherever you go. Reading at the beach, a park, or on the bus is the perfect way to spend your time.
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Enjoy a home-cooked meal to spoil yourself. If you normally make quick and easy meals for dinner, follow a new recipe you’ve been dying to try. Spend the evening in the kitchen perfecting your cooking skills and preparing all the parts of your meal. Once you’re finished with all your hard work, now comes the best part: eating it all! [5] X Research source
- Got a sweet tooth? Try baking cookies, cakes, or pastries instead.
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Planting flowers and houseplants can freshen up your yard or home. Find a few plants at your local nursery that can grow in pots indoors or in the ground outside. When you’re starting your garden , try out a few different layouts until you’re happy with how your plants are arranged. Continue taking care of your plants so you have tons of greenery inside and outside your home.
- If you have pets at home, make sure the plants you get are safe for animals. Some houseplants, like calla lilies, snake plants, and jade, are toxic if your pet chews on them.
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Updating the look of your home can really brighten your mood. Before you start redecorating, get rid of all of the clutter so you have a clean slate to start with. Take down any decorations that you don’t enjoy anymore and put up some new art or decor that matches the new vibe you want. Feel free to rearrange your furniture and try out a few different options before settling on your final interior design.
- Don’t have time to redecorate your entire home? Focus on just a single room instead, like your living room or bedroom.
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Walking is a great way to stay active and find local spots nearby. Take a walk down the main roads of your neighborhood and pop into stores or cafes that interest you, especially if you haven’t visited them before. As you’re walking, don’t be afraid to explore a few new streets to check out what they have to offer.
- Another fun activity to do on your walk is imagining what living in each house is like. If you pass by an old Victorian home, you may daydream about a reading room lined with bookcases or playing music in a piano room.
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Biking around is a quick way to explore your town. Hop on your bike, strap on your helmet, and bike around to your favorite hangouts or someplace new. If you find a bike path or trail, follow it to see where it leads and get some fresh air. Just remember not to go too far since you’ll have to bike back the same distance you’ve traveled to get home.
- Many cities have bike rentals so you don’t even need your own bicycle to ride around.
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Treat yourself to a small, simple meal in a green space. Plan your picnic by packing some delicious sandwiches, fruits, veggies, cheeses, and any other snacks you enjoy. Spread out a big blanket under the shade at your favorite park and have your meal while you people-watch or read your favorite book.
- Pack up your food once you’re finished munching so you don’t have to deal with pesky ants or bees.
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Hiking is perfect if you want to stay active and get outside. If you’re the outdoorsy type, look for trails in your area that are within your skill level. Put on your hiking boots, pack some water and snacks, and hit the trails. As you’re hiking, enjoy the peace and quiet as you connect with all the nature surrounding you.
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Become one with the flowers as you surround yourself with nature. Stop by the botanical gardens and just walk through the trails of local plants and flowers. Take a moment to smell all the beautiful blooms and find your new favorites!
- Some botanical gardens have plants for sale, so if purchase one that you love the look of to add to your own home garden.
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Enjoy the evening sky as it changes colors with the setting sun. Check the sunset time in your area so you know when to be outside and ready for it. Try to find a good, unobstructed vantage point, like on a hill or along a western coast, and watch the sky change from blue to purple and then to the pitch black night sky. Once the sun dips below the horizon, come back the next day and do it all over again.
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Appreciate the beauty of the night sky with this late-night option. After it gets dark, lay out a blanket in your yard or an unlit spot outside. Just lay back and watch the stars twinkle as you look for constellations , search for shooting stars, and bask in the moonlight.
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Cruise around town with some good tunes for a simple solo date. Queue up your favorite playlist or pick a few of your favorite albums, and play them while you’re driving. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have any destination in mind; just take a drive through your favorite neighborhoods, through the countryside, or to a nearby town.
- If someplace on the side of the road catches your eye, don’t be afraid to stop and check it out.
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You don’t need to spend money at a day spa to feel revitalized. Set up a spa at home by lighting a few scented candles, putting on some calming music, and wrapping up in a fluffy robe to set the mood. Apply a face mask , put some cucumber slices over your eyes, and put your feet up to relax.
- Rub a little massage oil onto your skin to give yourself a massage and relieve tension while you’re relaxing at home.
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Keep your nails looking fresh and clean with a day at the salon. Schedule a nail appointment and let yourself get pampered for a few hours. You could go for a basic mani-pedi to help your nails look their best, or get creative with different polish colors, finishes, or even fake nails to get the custom look you want.
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Release all your pain and tension with a quick spa trip. If you’re feeling tight or tense, then contact a masseuse or day spa and see when they have openings. When you’re getting your massage, just stay really relaxed and focus on how much better your body feels now that you’re now holding that tension or stress.
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You don’t need a date to have a night out at a nice restaurant. Is there a restaurant you’ve always wanted to go to but no one has asked you to go? Then book a table for one! Try a dish that you’ve always wanted to have, and take your time eating so you really enjoy your meal. Don’t forget to leave room for a decadent dessert to wrap up your meal. [6] X Research source
- If you’re planning on eating at a fancy restaurant, call ahead and make a reservation to ensure you get a seat.
- Eating out doesn’t have to be an expensive affair. Even enjoying a cheap, simple meal at a restaurant can be a nice way to treat yourself and get out of the house.
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Explore all the local spots you may have missed with a fun staycation. If a full vacation is out of your budget, look up the most popular tourist spots and act like a tourist . Explore all the places that you love or haven’t been to yet, and just appreciate the town where you live. You may find some new favorite spots to take friends or even future dates.
- Check if there are any fun activities or events that are happening in your town that you could check out. Maybe there’s a parade, community event, or local music to enjoy on the weekend of your staycation.
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Drive alone and take in all the scenic landscapes you pass by. Pack up your car and plan a route through the countryside, mountains, along the coast, you name it! Cruise down the road with some of your favorite tunes. Don’t be afraid to pull over to appreciate the beautiful scenery around you.
- If you’re doing a road trip in the USA, try the Blue Ridge Parkway if you’re in the Appalachian Mountains, the Great River Road to travel along the Mississippi, Trail Ridge Road in the Colorado Rockies, or the Pacific Coastal Highway in California.
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Enjoy a ritzy night away from home as a mini-vacation. You’ve had your eyes on the 5-star hotel in town, so take one of the available rooms when you’ve saved up the money. Get there right when your room is available to maximize your time there. Make sure you enjoy all the amenities like the pool, bar, and room service, to make your stay extra luxurious.
- Want to get the best deal on a hotel room? Try booking through a travel agent since they normally get discounted rates and more included amenities. If you don’t want a travel agent, then book your room as far in advance as you can to lock in a low price.
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An exciting and intense activity is perfect if you’re a thrill-seeker. If you’re an adrenaline junkie and want to feel a new rush of excitement, check for skydiving, bungee jumping, or another similar activity in your area. Even if you’re a little nervous to try it out, now’s the time to face your fears and try it out! The rush you’ll feel at the end of the activity will absolutely be worth it.
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About This Article
This article was written by John Keegan
and by wikiHow staff writer, Hunter Rising
. John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. This article has been viewed 9,490 times.
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