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Once the teen years hit, you might start wondering, "What does it mean to be a good parent to a teen?" As your teenage daughter goes through a huge wave of physical, emotional, and social changes, it's normal for your relationship with her to get a little strained and face new challenges. But during these important years, good parenting is more important than ever before. We'll show you how to give your teenage daughter the support and structure she needs while building a stronger relationship with her along the way.
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Ask her about what she is interested in. Don't be nosy though, that can really bug your teenage daughter. Also, if she seems like she doesn't want to answer your questions, stop asking and wait for another time, teens can get moody, just like the rest of us. Some examples of questions to ask are:
- What is your favorite book?
- What is your favorite movie?
- What is your favorite color?
- What is your favorite song/album/singer/band?
- What do you like to do in your spare time?
- Where's your favorite place to shop?
- What is your favorite animal?
- What is your favorite or least favorite food?
- Or you can just make up your own questions.
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Encourage and develop good communication with your daughter. [1] X Expert Source Dr. Niall Geoghegan, PsyD
Clinical Psychologist Expert Interview. 24 July 2019. Teenage girls always have the desire to have relationships with boys (or girls), whether it's just friendship or crushing. If your daughter is comfortable with you, she will tell you once she's made a new friend or likes a particular person.- Get to know her, know her weaknesses and strengths and what makes her happy.
- Be interested in what she tells you. Do not look worried or angry. Ask her about the person, or even ask to meet them. Then decide whether she should hang out with them or not. [2] X Research source
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Give your daughter attention. Sometimes it is neglect that can make you distant from your daughter. Hug her (not too much, maybe for 5 seconds) and comfort her. Tell her she is beautiful. Heal small hurts at random times every day. If either of you are sad or stressed comfort each other once again. [3] X Research source
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Accept the fact that she's no longer a kid, she's a teenager, and has different desires. That's the most important thing a parent should do. [4] X Research source
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Be respectful and caring about her interest in having a boyfriend or girlfriend. If she has a partner, be supportive. Once you've met the partner and gotten to know them, and feel like they're the right sort, you can let her go on dates with them. If you did not feel like the person is trustworthy, tell your daughter the reasons why without exploding or banning the relationship.
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Let her have freedom within caring boundaries. Give her her own space to grow but also kindly clarify the boundaries. Know that she may sometimes test these boundaries and that is when you need to remind her that she is aware of the boundaries and that they need to restored. [5] X Research source
- If you disagree with your daughter's choice of clothing, tell her face to face. Be reasonable. Talk to her about the problems with how clothing can be suggestive and the things that certain people may assume of some types of clothing.
EXPERT TIPMarriage & Family TherapistMoshe Ratson is the Executive Director of spiral2grow Marriage & Family Therapy, a coaching and therapy clinic in New York City. Moshe is an International Coach Federation accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He received his MS in Marriage and Family Therapy from Iona College. Moshe is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), and a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF).As your kids grow, their opinions and communication style will evolve. They'll need their home to be a safe space where they can change without judgment. Open communication and acceptance will equip your family to have healthy boundaries, while being happy and loving.
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Do your best to not be the kind of parent whom your daughter would want to turn to when she's in a fix. In other words, never be the type of parent whom your daughter would be scared of.
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Do random acts of kindness for your daughter. Even though she may pretend she doesn't like it when you clean her room, she really does. Some random acts you could do are:
- Cleaning her room/bathroom
- Cooking her an unforgettably tasty meal
- Buying her some make up you think she would like
- Buying her some clothes/jewelry she would enjoy
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Trust your teen daughter. Let your daughter know you trust her. And actually do trust her. Once she sees that you find her trustworthy, she will feel more likely to trust you. [6] X Research source
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Remember her birthdays and respect the things that are important to her. In this way, you will be respected too.
- Make each of her birthdays extra special, by taking trips, or by having amazing parties.
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Take your teen daughter places. Take her somewhere she would like, for example to the mall or a music concert.
- Take your daughter to places she has never heard of before and see if she finds new hobbies and good new experiences.
- Take her shopping at her favorite stores.
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Tips
- Keep in mind that if your daughter is brought up by parents whom she's comfortable with and parents who give freedom, she would not hide anything from you or would not dress inappropriately.Thanks
- Everything depends on the parenting ways. It should be right and correct, or your daughter will become exactly the opposite of what you tried to make her become.Thanks
- Respect her friends, and be nice to them.Thanks
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Warnings
- Don't overwork her into a whole bunch of after school activities she needs her rest.Thanks
- Let her be very comfortable with you.Thanks
- Never scold her in front of others.Thanks
- Don't follow her where ever she goes. Trust her. Giver her freedom.Thanks
- Don't judge her or her friends.Thanks
- Don't be clingy, your daughter may feel uncomfortable.Thanks
- Do not tell her to try to be more like someone else.Thanks
- Never expect too much of her.Thanks
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References
- ↑ Dr. Niall Geoghegan, PsyD. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 24 July 2019.
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/preteen.html?WT.ac=p-ra#catbest-self
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/raising-resilient-children-and-teens/201802/how-we-communicate-we-love-our-teens
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/adolescence.html?WT.ac=ctg#catbest-self
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/adolescence.html?WT.ac=ctg#catbest-self
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/raising-resilient-children-and-teens/201802/how-we-communicate-we-love-our-teens
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Being a good parent for your teenage daughter is about getting to know her and encouraging her to make wise decisions. Take time out of each day to talk to your daughter so you can keep up with how she’s feeling and what’s important to her. Encourage her to share her emotions without judging her so she’ll be more comfortable telling you things in the future. Let her have freedom and responsibility within your boundaries. For example, let her hang out with her friends as long as she does her school work and chores. To make her happy, do random acts of kindness for her, like cooking her favorite meal or buying her a spontaneous gift. For more tips, including how to talk to your daughter about relationships, read on!
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