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If you’ve ever felt a spark of joy when a lie of yours went unnoticed, that was duper’s delight. Duper’s delight, or duping delight, is the experience of getting a little kick of dopamine when you get away with something scott free. While it’s often experienced when the deceiver feels no one has gotten hurt, it’s an emotion that can lead people to tell bigger and bigger lies. If you think you or someone you’re interacting with is experiencing duper’s delight, read this article to learn the signs and appropriate responses to the phenomenon. Put your Sherlock Holmes’ hats on and let’s get lie detecting .
Things You Should Know
- Duper’s delight is the joy someone experiences after they get away with a lie.
- Signs of duper’s delight are flashes of inappropriate smiles, crinkled eyes, and lip biting.
- The best way to deal with duper’s delight is to recognize it, encourage the truth, and disengage from the person if you keep seeing it.
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QuestionAm I a narcissist if I'm always on dupers delight?Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.If you find that you lie a lot and feel good because you get away with deceiving others, then there is a possibility of being a narcissist. Narcissists manipulate others, and they could feel a sense of excitement from getting away with something like lying. Although not all compulsive liars are narcissists, some people lie so much that it becomes second nature, almost automatic; they lose control of the effects of their actions. It could have started as a means of avoiding trouble, but it snowballed into a pattern that is hard to break. While consistent lying and deriving pleasure from the act of deception can be features of narcissism, you could look deeper into your behavior and motives in the real sense. If this pattern concerns you, it may be useful to reflect on your actions and seek some guidance in trying to understand and correct these actions.
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References
- ↑ https://www.paulekman.com/blog/duping-delight/
- ↑ https://www.paulekman.com/resources/micro-expressions/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/199705/the-truth-about-lying
- ↑ https://youtu.be/P_6vDLq64gE?t=951
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8217652/
- ↑ https://naomedical.com/info/baby-throws-head-back-when-happy.html
- ↑ https://www.paulekman.com/deception/deception-detection/
- ↑ https://youtu.be/P_6vDLq64gE?t=742
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8217652/
- ↑ https://achievecentre.com/blog/10-strategies-for-detecting-and-responding-to-lying-2/
- ↑ https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/how-to-spot-a-liar
- ↑ https://achievecentre.com/blog/10-strategies-for-detecting-and-responding-to-lying-2/
- ↑ ​​ https://youtu.be/P_6vDLq64gE?t=115
- ↑ ​​ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/202305/a-new-way-to-ensure-that-people-treat-you-right
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