How do you let go of someone you loved?

06/17/25 4:41pm

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wikiHow Editorial Team

06/17/25 4:42pm

When you want to let go of someone you loved , it's really important to put yourself and your feelings first. Recognize and name the emotions you're feeling, and give yourself some time and space to feel sad about losing that connection. It might be a good idea to completely cut off contact with them for a little while so you aren't reminded of them as frequently.

While you're trying to move on emotionally, spend time with the people that you care about and that care about you. Do activities that distract you and take your mind off the person. Try exercising, reading, starting a new hobby, or anything else that makes you feel calm and relaxed.

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Sarah Schewitz, PsyD
Licensed Psychologist

06/17/25 4:48pm

If one or both of you has decided it's really better to break up and let go, getting some space will help you avoid the pull to get back together or hook up one last time—either of which will likely just prolong the end. Remember, just because you still care about your ex doesn't mean you should stop caring about yourself!

Try reading books on personal growth, listening to podcasts on healing from breakups, or talking to a therapist. All of these things can help you get insight into what you can learn from the relationship.

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