How to smoothly ask for a girl's number?

02/19/25 5:54pm

There's a girl I run into a lot on campus. I don't know her, but we smile at each other and I think I'd like to ask for her number, but I don't know how to do this without seeming...Idk, like a creep? Or desperate? Is it weird to just........ask a stranger for her number? If not, how do you do it (with at least a little rizz)? What do you even say??

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Connell Barrett
Dating Coach

02/20/25 9:12am

The best way to ask for a girl's number is to not ask so much as lead. Strike up a conversation the next time you see her. While you're talking, give her a compliment, like, "Hey, I enjoy talking to you, you're really funny, you're really witty, I've enjoyed this. Let's trade numbers," then take out your phone and assume that she feels the same way. Feel confident about it. Don't say, "Hey, can I please maybe get your number?" Instead, be confident and approach it with an attitude of, "Hey, of course we're going to trade numbers, we clearly like each other."

Remember that the phone number should be exchanged as a byproduct of a nice flirtatious connected conversation. It's not a trophy. It's not the reason for the conversation. It's simply a byproduct of two people connecting and getting closer, who want to see each other again.

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Anonymous WikiMist

02/20/25 6:14pm

That's all great advice. I'd also add that in order to not come off creepy (which is something I worry about sometimes myself), it helps to have an actual conversation with her before asking for her number. So if you only like this girl because she's cute and smiles at you, maybe your next step should be chatting with her for a few minutes and then ask for her number if you feel like you're vibing.

You're at school, ask her what classes she's taking. If you're at a cafe, ask her if she's tried the new crazy beverage. Simple conversation starters that can get the ball rolling. Like the commenter above said the phone number is a byproduct of connecting and a sign you both want to get closer and see where that connection can go.

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Anonymous WikiWombat

02/21/25 12:12am

this is actually super helpful. i don't ask for strangers' numbers often so i am not confident i have the rizz to do it lol. but my big concern is honestly what do you do AFTER getting a girl's number? do i text her?

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Anonymous WikiMist

02/25/25 5:47pm

I don't think you need to say much in your initial texts, to be honest. She likely gave you her number so you could stay connected and set up a time to hang out or go on a date. So you don't need to worry yet about carrying on a conversation over text, and in fact you probably shouldn't be texting her much until you know each other better. I would give it a little buffer time, say a few hours, and then text "Hi this is Mike [or whatever your name is] from the student union, would you like to meet for a drink/coffee/walk this week?"

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