What do you say to comfort someone over text?
What are your go-to ways to show support and encouragement to your friends over text? What are the best things friends have sent YOU to comfort you?
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I think it depends on the situation. If someone is having a hard day, you can just let them know you were thinking about them. If someone is grieving, you may want to say “I’m here if you’d like to talk.” If someone is anxious, you can let them know that they are safe and this too shall pass. Depending on what the person is experiencing, you may want to change up your approach. But anytime you text someone for comfort they know that you care. The words may not mean as much as just the fact that you reached out. Best of luck!
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when my friends are going through a hard time I usually text them things like "I'm here for you," "I'm so sorry you're dealing with this now," "Let me know what I can do to help," "You're not alone," "I'm thinking of you," "It's going to be okay. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but remember it will be okay eventually, and in the meantime I am always here," "You're one of my best friends and I hate that you're going through this," or "I'm really glad you shared this with me."
I'll also usually ask if they want to talk on the phone or meet up. Sometimes it's nice to talk in person or just sit in silence with someone, but sometimes they just want to be alone and that's fine too.
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I'll also usually ask if they want to talk on the phone or meet up. Sometimes it's nice to talk in person or just sit in silence with someone, but sometimes they just want to be alone and that's fine too.
All good answers. I have learned that saying "What can I do" is sometimes not helpful because they will usually just say "nothing." Instead I say "Tell me what I can do to help" because there is always something
. And of course, a few pretty emojis is always nice: 💓 💐 🫂
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One of my go-to things to say to friends who are going through a death, sickness, breakup, or whatever is "Do you want to talk about it" and if they say no I might say "What can you do to feel good right now?" I try to get them to identify one thing that will help them feel comforted, like taking a walk or a shower or maybe I order them food if I can or bring something over
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