Why am I dreaming of my ex so much?
So my ex boyfriend and I broke up OVER a year ago, I've been out with other people since then and would consider myself "over it," but lately I've been having vivid dreams about him and I'm not sure why. It's driving me crazy! Is there some spiritual significance to these dreams, or something the universe is trying to tell me? Help!
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It can definitely feel a little uncomfortable to dream about an ex, especially someone that you do not want to have thoughts about. But it’s totally normal. Dreams can be the brain’s way of working through past experiences, especially if something in your present life mirrors a feeling or from that past relationship. It’s called emotional processing, and something that you can’t control. It can be a random person, a trigger, or you growing as an individual. Don’t pay too much attention to it, dreams are the subconscious.
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Realistically, dreaming about an ex probably just means that, well, they were an important part of your life. But I have heard that when you dream about someone (including an ex), it means that they're thinking about you. So even though you're over him...maybe he is not over you! Or maybe he wants to be friends. If you feel like it, you could even reach out to him to see how he's doing, but don't feel like you have to.
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Dreams only have as much meaning as you give them! If you think you're dreaming about your ex because you're not over him, try giving yourself some time to reflect on the relationship and your current feelings towards him to see if anything comes to mind. Maybe there is something that you've been hiding from yourself that this can reflection can reveal. Or it could just be a random dream that means nothing! Maybe he's just on your mind because he came up in conversation or you saw something that reminded you of him, so you had a dream about him. Sorry that the dreams are driving you crazy.
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It happens. I broke up with my boyfriend over 5 years ago and I still dream about him sometimes. At first, I'd drive myself crazy trying to make meaning out of it and stressing if this meant that I was still hung up on him. But then after a while I realized that dreaming about people is just a thing that your brain does. Now I assure myself that it was just a dream and move on with my day, and that has brought me peace.
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