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How can I be social at a party when I don't know anyone?

Lynda Jean
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Lynda Jean is an Image Consultant and the Owner of Lynda Jean Image Consulting. With over 15 years of experience, Lynda specializes in color and body/style analysis, wardrobe audits, personal shopping, social and professional etiquette, and personal and business branding. She works with clients to enhance their image, self-esteem, behavior, and communication to facilitate their social and career goals. Lynda holds Bachelor degrees in Sociology and Social Work, a Master’s degree in Clinical Social Work, and a Certified Image Consultant (CIC) certification. She studied Image Consulting at the International Image Institute and the International Academy of Fashion and Technology in Toronto, Canada. Lynda has taught Image Consulting courses at George Brown College in Toronto, Canada. She is the co-author of the book, “Business Success With Ease,” where she shares her knowledge about, ‘The Power of Professional Etiquette.’

Lynda Jean

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Get up and walk around. Don't sit down. Smile at people. If there's a group of two people, it's best not to intervene, but if there are three people, the suggestion is that it might be a more casual conversation. So what you do is just break and enter, because eventually one person will turn and see you. Then you can make eye contact, smile, and say, "Do you mind if I join you?"

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I just moved from China to America a few months ago and I'm in 8th grade. I'm really afraid of making grammar and vocabulary mistakes while I'm talking to people. What should I do?

Giselle DaSilva

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Don’t be afraid. If somebody makes fun of you just say, “I’m not the best at speaking English, but I bet I speak better Chinese than you!”. Just keep talking to people until you find a kind person who accepts you. A true friend won’t make fun of you.

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I'm really bad at talking to people, and I'm not sure how much eye contact I should make when talking to them.

Anderson Bridges

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It's okay if you're not good at talking to people. It happens to lots of us, so don't feel ashamed of it. As for eye contact, look them in the eye most of the time, but don't stare them down.

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Being shy and knowing everyone from last year's class, what should I do?

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Start conversations with people who seem lonely. This will show that you are confident and kind. If you feel lonely, don't hesitate to ask to join a conversation or game. Most of the time, they will agree. If they don't, just say "That's okay" and try another group.

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