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It's such a bummer when a guy you don't like asks you out. You don't want to hurt his feelings, but you totally have to say "no." Don't stress because we can help! We’ve compiled the best ways to reject a guy nicely.
Ways to Reject a Guy Nicely
- Keep it simple by thanking the guy politely and then telling him no.
- Offer a compliment to help soften the rejection.
- Prevent him from feeling as hurt by sharing "I" statements.
- Let him know that you're dating someone else right now.
- Explain that you don't see him in a romantic light.
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- Keep your text short and concise so it’s more direct. You don’t want him to misunderstand what you’re saying. [16] X Trustworthy Source Edutopia Educational nonprofit organization focused on encouraging and celebrating classroom innovation Go to sourceThanks
- Be clear about what you want instead of leading him on. It seems nice to say something like, “Maybe another time,” but it’s only nice if you mean that. Otherwise, he’s only going to be more upset when he finally realizes you aren’t interested. [17] X Trustworthy Source Science Direct Online archive of peer-reviewed research on scientific, technical and medical topics Go to sourceThanks
- Don’t apologize because it's okay to reject someone. Apologizing might make him think it’s okay to keep asking. [18] X Research sourceThanks
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References
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2013/02/nine-practices-to-help-you-say
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ Judith Gottesman, MSW. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 October 2021.
- ↑ Judith Gottesman, MSW. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.educationsupport.org.uk/resources/for-individuals/guides/saying-no-advice-for-setting-boundaries/
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-funny-bone-to-pick/202202/how-to-reject-someone-and-help-them-at-the-same-time
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201605/6-ways-to-turn-someone-down-politely
- ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/how-to-say-no/
- ↑ Judith Gottesman, MSW. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 October 2021.
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/learning-to-say-no
- ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.npr.org/2020/09/15/913207918/how-to-say-no-for-the-people-pleaser-who-always-says-yes
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2016/01/how-to-say-no-to-things-you-want-to-do
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2020/09/learn-when-to-say-no
- ↑ https://www.edutopia.org/article/its-ok-say-no/
- ↑ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S038800010800003X
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/learning-to-say-no
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