How to Start a Love Letter

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Ah, love. You’re head-over-heels for someone, and you’re ready to tell them exactly how you feel. Whether your love is a crush, a long-term partner, or someone in between, a love letter is the perfect way to sweep them off their feet.

Here are 12 tips to help you get started writing a love letter that really captures how you feel.

Examples to Start a Love Letter

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Use beautiful stationery for a romantic touch. [1]

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  1. Choose stationery that reflects your style or that makes you think of your love. For instance, you might choose paper or a card that's your favorite color or that features symbols of love, like hearts or flowers.
    • You can find stationery at department stores, stationery stores, office supply stores, bookstores, and online.
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Decorate the letter with a drawing to add a personal touch. [2]

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  1. You could also create a drawing on the paper first, and then write your letter around it. Don't worry about your drawing being perfect. Just create something you think will impress your love.
    • If you're not good at drawing, try gluing flower petals, photos of you and your love, or keepsake scraps, such as old movie tickets or handwritten notes, to the letter.
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Write their first name in the greeting so it's personal. [3]

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  1. Use a simple salutation, such as “Dear,” “For,” and “To.” Then, include their name or preferred nickname.
    • You might write, “Dear Alexander,” “For Alex,” or “To A.”
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Include a term of endearment in the greeting for added romance. [4]

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  1. Be as mushy as your partner likes. Use a pet nickname you already call them for an easy option. Alternatively, try a flowery term of endearment to create a romantic love letter vibe.
    • You might use a greeting like, “Dear Beloved,” “To my heart,” “Oh, my darling,” or “Mi Amor.”
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Tailor your letter to fit the recipient’s personality. [5]

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  1. For instance, decide if they like things that are more sentimental or more humorous. Write your letter with them in mind so it feels more personal to them.
    • Let’s say your love is very sentimental. You might focus on memories with them and take a serious tone. You could write things like, “As I watched you on the beach yesterday, all I could think about is how lucky I am. You’ve changed my life for the better, and I’ll be forever grateful.”
    • If your love is more lighthearted and funny, you might try a fun, upbeat tone and recount funny moments together or inside jokes. You could write, “I still remember that time we ate pizza off the floor because we were too lazy to make another one. You compl-eat me.”
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Explain why you’re writing the letter for an easy opening. [6]

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  1. One easy way to begin your letter is to give a reason why you’re writing it. In a sentence or 2, tell your recipient what made you decide to write a love letter today.
    • Say, “I’ve been thinking about you a lot today, and I wanted to tell you how I feel,” “Ever since the night we first met, I just can’t stop thinking about you,” or “I know you’re the one for me, and it’s time I told you that.”
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Recount a memory if you’ve been with the person for a while. [7]

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  1. It might be the first time you met, the moment you knew you were in love, or a time you felt really close to them. Or, it might be a very simple moment that really touched your heart, but you never told them about. Summarize your memory in 2-3 sentences to start off your letter.
    • You could write something like, “On the night of our first anniversary, you surprised me with a candlelit dinner you made yourself. Enjoying your handmade meal made me feel more loved than any fancy restaurant ever could. In that moment, I knew no one ever loved me like you do.”
    • Reader Poll: We asked 992 wikiHow readers, and 57% of them agreed that the memory they cherish the most about their relationship is the moment they first met their partner or felt sparks fly . [Take Poll]
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Start with a quote if you’re struggling with what to write. [8]

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  1. Once you start writing, it’ll likely be easier to share your feelings. To get your letter going, try using a quote about love that makes you think of your partner. Here are some great options you might consider using:
    • “I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.” - John Green
    • “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.” - Sophocles
    • “When you love someone, you love the whole person, just as he or she is, and not as you would like them to be.” - Leo Tolstoy
    • “You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.” - Albert Einstein
    • “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” - Aristotle
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Give specific details so your love letter is more meaningful. [9]

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  1. Describe their qualities that make them special to you and touch your heart; it can be tender, cute, or even quirky things about them. Provide details and specific moments so your letter is more personal. This will make your recipient feel extra special.
    • For instance, you might be tempted to write things like, “You’re amazing, smart, beautiful, and fun to be around.” These things are nice, but they’re pretty generic. Instead, you could write, “I’ve never met someone who can bake as well as you do,” “You tell the wittiest jokes,” or “I could stare into your eyes all day.”
    • Similarly, don’t just say, “I like spending time with you.” Instead, say, “Whether we’re hiking trails, listening to new music, or crashing in front of the TV, every moment with you is exciting.”
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Stay positive so the person feels loved and appreciated. [10]

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  1. This isn’t the time to point out your problems or discuss how you want your relationship to improve in the future. Stick to happy, positive memories and anecdotes so your recipient feels loved.
    • Write things like, “Every day with you is a gift,” “On the day I met you, I knew I’d fall hard for you,” or “I’m amazed by your smile, your laugh, and your pure heart.” Let the person know how their love has changed your life for the better, and how they make you feel when you are with them<
    • Leave out stuff like, “I know we have our problems,” “One day we’ll be the couple we want to be,” or “I might get annoyed with you sometimes, but I know deep down you’re the right person for me.”
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Try expressing your feelings in a love poem. [11]

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  1. Let your feelings inspire you, write about an experience you had with your partner or crush, or compare your love to something special. Don't worry about format or rhyming. Just write what comes from your heart.
    • For instance, you might write about your first date or how your heart beats faster when they're around. Similarly, you might compare them to something like a cleansing rain that made you feel anew, sunlight that helped you blossom, or arms that lifted you up.
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Fold your letter into a unique shape for a creative delivery.

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  1. Turn your letter into its own envelope . As another option, try a cute origami fold to really impress your love. This will make your letter feel extra special to the recipient.
    • For instance, you might fold your letter into a paper heart .
    • You could also try delivering the letter as a message in a bottle for a unique delivery.




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    Tell them how you feel and why. Don't expect much, as they probably get lots of these and they may not have time to read yours, if they even see it, but that can still be better than holding it in.
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      Tips

      • Look at famous love letters for inspiration. You can find love letters written by famous writers or historical figures online. Check out how they expressed their love!
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      • Consider writing a first draft on scrap paper. You might want to review and revise your letter before you give it to your love.
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      • Take your time. Set apart time in your day to reflect on what you want to write and really focus on the task.
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      Warnings

      • Don't be creepy. If the person you are sending the letter to has told you they are not interested, don't pester any further!
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      • It may not work! Even though you may have given your letter all your heart, sometimes people just don't feel the same way. There will be someone else out there for you who will appreciate you for who you are! Try not to dwell on what you could have said better because it could very well be that even though you wrote something wonderfully, it just wasn't meant to be for that person.
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      1. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/8-tips-for-writing-a-love-letter-to-your-spouse/
      2. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/8-tips-for-writing-a-love-letter-to-your-spouse/
      3. ↑ https://www.depauw.edu/stories/details/how-to-write-a-love-letter/
      4. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/8-tips-for-writing-a-love-letter-to-your-spouse/
      5. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-empowerment-diary/202302/how-to-write-a-love-letter-and-poem
      6. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-empowerment-diary/202302/how-to-write-a-love-letter-and-poem
      7. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-empowerment-diary/201405/writing-passionate-love-letters
      8. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-empowerment-diary/201405/writing-passionate-love-letters
      9. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-empowerment-diary/201405/writing-passionate-love-letters
      1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/valley-girl-brain/201409/what-makes-great-love-letter
      2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/valley-girl-brain/201409/what-makes-great-love-letter

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      If you’re writing a love letter, getting started can be the hardest part, even if you’re already in a relationship with the person. Open the letter with a heartfelt salutation, like “Dear John,” or “To the woman I love.” As you start writing, tell the person why your time together has been so meaningful. Use a tone that’s intimate and familiar, and include special references or inside jokes so the letter has an intimate tone. Keep reading for tips on writing a love letter to someone you’re not dating!

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