To Wikibandicoot - Oh you have to tell him - you want to work on that cycle, and tell him even tho you love him - relationships take work, mental and emotional as well as physical. And explain to him that your thoughts and feelings must be heard, considered and equally respected as his. Reiterate the word “work” - communication takes work and “we need to work on this better”. <br /><br />So you lay out the issue, the problem, the goal - in logical order. That is how a lot of men need to hear it. Then work on the ‘how’ to improve that dynamic with constructive comments also emphasizing your thoughts on the subject matter - and talking through it together taking each other’s thoughts in is what counts.<br /><br />Like if he says A and say “oh how could you say that and I don’t like that”. <br />That right there is not constructive… it gives him no direction regarding what you think is a better solution or what you’d like better and why you think that. <br /><br />When you are not being proactively constructive - he takes it upon himself to take control and “solve” the problem without your input. Don’t be passive when he does that - be Proactive and interactive. Expect to be heard. <br /><br />Aside from that - this thing with the slightest misstep or word from<br />You has him enraged - is WRONG. It is an ABUSIVE way to Control you. Stop enabling it and stand up for yourself.<br /><br />His temper cannot intimidate you into silence. If that happens again - do NOT apologize for his fit. Simply tell him you do not like the way he reacts and talks to you in those moments and you need space for a few days. Let him know when he can communicate calmly and respectfully - you will listen, but then he needs to listen to you. Say goodnight - period.<br /><br />Set that boundary - he will never respect you if you don’t.