How to Ask Someone to Kiss You

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You’re out on a date and it’s going super well—but now it’s time to say goodbye. If you really want to lean in for the kiss but you aren’t sure how, you’re not alone! Simply going for it can be a little intimidating, and it’s always good to check your date’s comfort levels and ask permission before taking the next step. There are a lot of different ways you can ask a girl or guy to kiss you–on the date or even over text–so pick the one that feels right for you.

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Try sincerity for a heartfelt option.

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    Then, follow up with the question about a kiss. Try something like: [1]
    • “This was so much fun, thanks for taking me out tonight. Would it be okay if I kissed you?”
    • “I had a really good time tonight, I hope we can see each other again. Can I kiss you?”
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Be straight up to avoid confusion.

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    Keep it straight and to the point so your date knows what you’re after. [2] For example: [3]
    • “Can I kiss you?”
    • “Would it be okay if I kissed you now?”
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Tell your date that you’re feeling nervous.

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    You can ask them indirectly with a cute question that shows off your vulnerability. Try something like: [4]
    • “I’d really love to kiss you now, but I’m too nervous to even ask!”
    • “Here comes the nerve-wracking part: can I kiss you?”
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Get a little flirty to have fun with it.

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    You can ask your question in a fun, flirty way to let your date know that you’re cool and casual. [5] Try something like: [6]
    • “Welcome to kissville: population, us?”
    • “Are you thinking what I’m thinking?”
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Ask about their comfort levels.

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    If you can’t tell, simply ask them with a question like: [7]
    • “I would love to kiss you right now, if you’re into it. Is that okay?”
    • “How comfortable would you be with kissing right now?”
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Turn it around on them.

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    You can inject a little humor into the situation so it doesn’t seem as serious, too. [8] Try something like: [9]
    • “You want to kiss me, don’t you?”
    • “I can tell that you want to kiss me right now.”
    • “If you’re going to ask me about a kiss, the answer is yes.”
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Ask what they’d like to do.

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    You can get specific or leave it broad to get an idea of what your date wants to do. Try something like: [10]
    • “Would you like me to lean in and kiss you right now?”
    • “How would you like to end this date?”
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Tell them to kiss you.

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    If you’re tired of beating around the bush, just tell your date straight up that you’re open to a kiss. For example: [11]
    • “I want you to kiss me.”
    • “Please kiss me now.”
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Draw attention to your lips.

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    Put on some chapstick or lipstick while you’re chatting to get their mind racing. [12]
    • This is a more subtle way to hint at kissing, and not everyone will get the message. You should follow up with a direct question to make sure, like, “Do you want to kiss me?” or, “Can I kiss you now?”
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Step in toward them to get closer.

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    If you’re saying goodbye to your date, step in closer to them to signal that you’re going in for a kiss. [13]
    • If your date keeps making eye contact with you and doesn’t step away, they’re probably open for a kiss.
    • If your date takes a step backward or won’t meet your eyes, back off a little.
    • The best way to avoid confusion is to ask with your words. If you aren’t sure what your date wants, just ask!
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Send a text before you see them.

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    Try sending a message that tells them how much you want to kiss them, then see if they respond well. For example: [14]
    • “I just bought some new lipstick. Fancy a taste?”
    • “I really wish I was kissing you right now.”
    • “I want to kiss you.”
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      2. ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      3. ↑ https://www.antiviolenceproject.org/2015/01/creative-ways-to-ask-to-kiss-or-be-kissed-by-someone/
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      9. ↑ https://medium.com/love-emma/can-i-kiss-you-or-would-that-ruin-the-mood-ad2b8739a101
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