Download Article
Download Article
Girls tend to appreciate guys who are empathetic. Being a good friend, listener and gentleman are ways to be attractive without coming across as pushy or obnoxious. Work on yourself and how you socialize. This will equip you not just for attracting girls, but also for having positive future relationships!
Steps
-
Focus on your talents. Pay attention to your natural abilities. [1] X Research source Think about areas where you excel. Commit yourself to discovering and cultivating your unique talents. [2] X Research source- For example, you may be good at a certain sport, school subject, art or instrument.
- Talent and success are both attractive qualities. Getting more involved with something you're good at can help you get noticed and acknowledged by others.
-
Practice good hygiene. Shower every day. Choose a mild soap and make sure to wash all areas of your body, including under your fingernails. Keep your nails well-trimmed. Use deodorant or antiperspirant. Avoid bad breath by practicing good oral health . Make sure to wear clean clothing, including socks. [3] X Research source- Opt for cotton clothing if you have a tendency to sweat a lot.
- You may want to wash your face up to twice per day. Shave as needed.
- If you show up to classes well-groomed, you'll probably feel better about yourself and attract more girls.
Advertisement -
Dress confidently. Aim to dress maturely instead of boyishly. Wear classic pieces instead of splurging on what's trendy. Dress appropriately for your climate. Wear what makes you feel good about yourself.- For example, don't buy oversized jeans just because they may be currently in fashion. You'll feel more confident in well-fitted pants than if you're constantly having to pull up your sagging jeans.
- Consider wearing a polo shirt instead of a t-shirt.
- Choose clothing that reflects the colors and necessary warmth of the season.
-
Speak confidently. Don't mumble. Talk loudly enough to be heard. Don't be afraid to give your opinion, but think about the impact of what you're going to say first. [4] X Research source- For example, don't compare a girl to someone you were in a previous relationship with.
- Talking just for the sake of talking shows nervousness. Try asking yourself before you speak, “Is this the truth? Is it nice to say? Is it important to say?”
-
Use confident body language . Smile, which shows that you're positive and approachable! Keep your posture straight. Avoid fidgeting, which can make you appear nervous. [5] X Research source- Positive body language helps others relate to you and respect you.
- If you're having trouble with slouching, practice keeping your back straight against a wall or a chair.
Advertisement
-
Be a good listener . Nod, make eye contact, and stay focused on what a girl is talking to you about. Try to understand her emotions and point of view. Imagine how she feels as she speaks, and react accordingly.- Everyone wants to be seen, heard, and accepted for who they are. If you show a girl that you are genuinely interested in what she loves and want to learn more about it, she will truly feel like you care about her.
- In future interactions with the girl, incorporate the information she shared in your conversations. This will help show you were paying attention when she spoke about it.
- Teen boys who empathize with their female peers are more likely to have girlfriends. [6] X Research source
- For example, if she's upset, hear her out. Then try saying, “I'm sorry that happened to you.”
-
Make friends with girls. Think of ways you can connect with each other. Make conversation about school or hobbies. Try asking her questions about herself, which will show you're interested in what she thinks.- Teen relationships often start with friendship. [7] X Research source
- If you've spoken to her before, try asking if you can add her as a friend on a social networking site.
- If you've never spoken to her before, try asking her about a class, mutual friend, or after-school activity.
- Try asking, “What type of music do you like?” [8] X Research source
- Try to create an authentic relationship where you both share and own your imperfections and mistakes.
-
Give girls compliments. Notice something about a girl that you can give her a positive comment on. Don't make something up; put thought into noticing something she's put effort into. Then offer a sincere, heartfelt compliment.- Try saying, “Your hair looks great today.”
- If you've witnessed her playing a sport or creating art in a class, you can compliment her on that.
- Practice vulnerable intimacy when possible and say why you like the girl on a deeper level.
-
Practice good manners. Make kind gestures whenever possible. Open doors for people. Offer your help when it may be appreciated, whether it's with carrying something or studying. [9] X Research source- For example, offer to help a girl with putting her coat on.
- If you see a girl carrying something bulky, try saying, “I can carry that for you.”
- If you see a girl struggling with a school subject you understand, help explain it to them or offer to study together.
Advertisement
Community Q&A
Search
-
QuestionDoes height matter? Will girls be attracted to taller guys?Community AnswerSome girls may have a height preference at least initially, but don't let that deter you. Your personality, not your height, will be the ultimate reason why a friendship or relationship works. A girl should like you for who you are, not things you can't control like your height. If she doesn't, spend your time with those who will appreciate you as you are.
Ask a Question
200 characters left
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
Submit
Advertisement
Reader Videos
Tips
Tips from our Readers
The advice in this section is based on the lived experiences of wikiHow readers like you. If you have a helpful tip you’d like to share on wikiHow, please submit it in the field below.
- At the end of the day, what's most important is loving yourself first.
Submit a Tip
All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published
Name
Please provide your name and last initial
Thanks for submitting a tip for review!
References
- ↑ https://www.highlandsco.com/childrens-talents/
- ↑ http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/teens/your-teens-identity/build-your-teens-identity
- ↑ http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/teen-hygiene#1
- ↑ https://www.themuse.com/advice/the-secret-to-being-confident-without-being-arrogant
- ↑ http://liveboldandbloom.com/10/self-confidence/body-language-tips
- ↑ https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/06/160608112924.htm
- ↑ https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/06/160608112924.htm
- ↑ https://www.clickz.com/eight-ways-to-reach-teens/64662/
- ↑ http://vkool.com/tips-for-teenage-guys/2/
About This Article
Article Summary
X
Attracting a girl as a teenage boy is about being confident and standing out from the crowd. Confidence is super attractive to girls, and you can make yourself seem more confident by standing up straight, smiling, and speaking clearly instead of mumbling. In your free time, do some interesting hobbies, like playing a musical instrument or playing a sport. This will help build your confidence, make you more interesting, and give you a unique edge. You should also make friends with lots of different girls, which will help you get more comfortable talking to them. For more tips, including how to dress to attract girls, read on!
Did this summary help you?
Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 206,429 times.
Advertisement
