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Julianne Cantarella

Dating & Relationship Coach

Julianne Cantarella is a Dating Coach, Certified Life Coach, Licensed Social Worker, and the CEO and President of New Jersey's Matchmaker. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in helping women heal from a heartbreak and create healthy long-term relationships. Julianne created a comprehensive transformational date coaching program From First Date to Soulmate™ that has helped hundreds of women find love. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work (BSW) from Ramapo College of New Jersey and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from Fordham University. Julianne has contributed to numerous media such as Your Tango Online Magazine, 24Seven Wellness Magazine, and Talk of The Town Magazine. She has also been featured as a relationship expert on CBS, iHeartRadio, and PBS “This Emotional Life Project.”

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How do I tell a cute boy I like him without being embarrassed 🙈?!
If you're having an interaction with a guy and want to show that you like him, you want to make eye contact and hold it for more than three seconds. Do some light touching on the arm as well to show him you're interested in him. Another good technique is mirroring his behavior. If he's sitting back, you can sit back, for example.

When you're talking to him, lean in, and really show that you're interested by listening and kind of paraphrasing back what he's said. For instance, if he says, "You know, I really like to go rock climbing," you could reply "Oh, you really like to go rock climbing? I've never been. What's that like?"
Tinder pick up lines that actually work?
Instead of thinking about it in terms of "pickup lines," you want to show that you've read their profile and that you're a positive person. So actually read their profile, and when you reach out to them, indicate something that was in their profile that spoke to you. That could potentially be something you have in common, or maybe something you're curious about and want to know more about. Maybe they're a scuba diver and you've never been scuba diving, but you find it very interesting and maybe you can talk about that. So the idea is to make the other person feel important. They want to know that you took the time to read their profile to find out more about them.

Use humor, because people always find humor attractive, but you don't want to appear creepy, so you don't want to say something inappropriate about their photos. But if you want to compliment a photo, that would be nice. Say something to the effect of, "You have a gorgeous smile." Or if someone has beautiful curly hair, say, "Oh, you know, I love your curls." It's simple without being too creepy.
Best Tinder bio advice for men
When it comes to dating profiles, you want to make sure you're presenting the best version of you, and that includes photos, because your photos determine 90% of your success online.

I would say post no more than four photos because it's enough to really showcase who you are. Make sure your photos are clear and not grainy and that you can see your whole face and you're smiling and looking confident. You want to make sure you're presenting a warm and approachable image. When you're choosing photos, ask yourself, "Who am I trying to attract? What type of person?"
How do you tell if someone's being flirty or friendly?
You can always tell when someone's flirting with you by their tone. It's complimentary. It's filled with humor. And it's light-hearted. Always respond in kind, if you feel comfortable. If it's something you don't feel comfortable with, then redirect. If it's something you feel comfortable with, be quick-witted, and respond in kind to be flirtatious.

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