What Does It Mean When a Guy Texts Back Quickly? Decode His Response Time Here

PDF download Download Article
PDF download Download Article

Sometimes he texts you back right away and other times, he takes his time. What does it all mean? Let’s dive right in and decode what your guy’s texting speed means for how he thinks about you.

What does it mean when a guy responds right away?

Generally, it means he likes you. It often means he’s eager to continue the conversation, especially if his response is on the longer side or if he compliments you and asks you lots of questions. He wants to get to know you better and he enjoys talking to you.

1

He texts before you’ve even responded.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/f\/f7\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-1.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-1.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/f\/f7\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-1.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-1.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    Sending you messages before you get a chance to respond is his way of trying to get your attention and keep the conversation going. Are you messaging on a platform that shows three dots or a “typing” message when the other person’s online? If he can see you’re typing and he still shoots you a new message, chances are he’s super into you.
    • If you like him, respond to his texts as soon as you see them to show you’re putting in the same effort.
    • If you’re not into him, be clear and honest to be respectful of his time and energy. Say something like, “I think you’re super cool, but I think we’re better as friends.” [1]
    • When you like him but the texting gets too much, don’t be afraid to say “Hey, I’m busy right now, but I want to talk later!”
    2. Advertisement
2

He messages right after you respond.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/5\/5f\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-2.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/5\/5f\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-2.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    Look at the types of messages he’s sending to get a better picture. Longer messages, compliments, personal stories, and lots of questions mean he’s looking to continue the conversation while shorter messages might mean he’s not interested. [2] Also, look at how consistently he responds quickly. If he responds to your messages quickly all the time, it’s a great sign he’s interested. [3] Try this:
    • Ask him: “What’re you up to?” and check both how fast he replies and what he says.
    • If he says something like “nothing much” and leaves the conversation there, he might not be super interested. If he responds quickly with what he’s doing and/or asks what you’re doing, that’s a good sign!
3

He responds within 10-20 minutes.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/f\/f1\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-3.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-3.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/f\/f1\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-3.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-3.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    He might be doing something else, hanging with friends, or trying to think of something good to say. A 10-20 minute response time is still pretty quick, so he might be interested! Again, check the length of the texts he’s sending, how consistently he responds, and see if he’s asking you questions to move the conversation forward.
    • Shake up the conversation with an open-ended question like: “What’s the best thing that’s happened so far today?”
    • Keep the conversation lighthearted and fun by sending a GIF or a meme from something you both like.
    • Throw in a compliment to show him you’re interested: “Has anyone ever told you you’ve got a really cute smile?”
    2. Advertisement
4

He replies after an hour or two.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/8\/87\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-4.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-4.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/8\/87\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-4.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-4.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    If he’s at work or school, texting after about an hour is probably appropriate and normal—even if he’s into you. [4] When you’re texting busy guys (and guys who just need a break from technology), don’t sweat a response that comes after an hour or two.
    • When he’s a slow texter, you can always ask to call or video chat: “I’m slow at typing. Wanna call instead?” [5]
    • If you’re really interested, be direct and ask for a date: “Hey, do you want to talk in-person? We could plan a picnic on Saturday?” [6]
5

He texts back after a few hours.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/7\/7b\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-5.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-5.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/7\/7b\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-5.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-5.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    First, he might be testing you or playing ‘hard to get’ to see how interested you are. [7] On the other hand, he might not be that interested. [8] People check their phones an average of 58 times a day, so after several hours, he’s probably seen the message. [9] Don’t worry, just give him time and see if he replies and tries to continue the conversation!
    • To check if he’s just testing you, send him a question about himself or his interests: “What got you into fixing bikes?”
    • Check in about something he’s mentioned recently: “How’d the game go today?”
    • If you don’t know him well, connect over something happening in the news or pop culture: “Are you watching March Madness? One of my friends is playing.”
    2. Advertisement
6

He replies after a day has passed.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/0\/0f\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-6.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-6.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/0\/0f\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-6.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-6.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    His life might’ve gotten super hectic, or something could’ve come up. Still, when he’s texting back the next day, it’s time to look at other signs he's interested : [10]
    • He pays attention to what you text and asks about parts of your messages.
    • He uses lots of flirty emojis (hearts, blushing faces, etc.)
    • He gives you compliments and tries to make you laugh.
    • Instead of responding, give him a bit of space. See if he’ll initiate the conversation.
7

He leaves you on read.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/8\/80\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-7.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-7.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/8\/80\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-7.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-7.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    If it’s more than 8 hours, something serious has come up in his life or he’s not interested. [11] While leaving you on read shows you’re not his top priority for now, use the time to refocus on yourself and make yourself your top priority! [12] Go do something fun and take some time before trying to follow up. [13]
    • Re-read your last message to see if it actually asked for a response. If your last message was just a short comment, it makes sense that he wouldn’t respond. Ask a question or shoot him a “How’s it going?” text to get him to reply.
    • If you’re in a relationship with this guy, speak up if it bothers you: “I feel disappointed when you read my messages but don’t respond. If you’re too busy to talk, that’s totally fine but please let me know you’re busy.”
    • If you’re still interested and don’t know him well, just be direct: “Hey, I’d love to grab coffee/drinks with you sometime. How about this weekend?”
    2. Advertisement
8

He texts early in the morning.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/9\/91\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-8.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-8.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/9\/91\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-8.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-8.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    Whether he starts a new conversation with you or continues the conversation from the previous night, he likes you! “Good morning” texts are a classic romantic gesture. Let him know you appreciate the message and respond quickly. [14]
    • “Good morning to you, too! Hope you have a great day.”
    • “I was just thinking about you.”
    • “Hey, how’d you sleep?”
9

He sends a message late at night.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/d\/d9\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-9.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-9.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/d\/d9\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-9.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-9.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    You might be the last thing he thinks about before going to bed. Just remember only receiving late-night messages might be a sign he’s interested in a casual relationship rather than a serious romantic relationship. [15] Here are some ideas of goodnight texts:
    • “I’m hoping my dreams are as sweet as you.” [16]
    • “Ugh. If I go to bed that means I don’t get to talk to you!”
    • To hint you want to keep talking during the week, say “Goodnight! I’ll talk to you tomorrow.”
    • If he starts texting you too late, set a kind, clear boundary: “Thanks so much for the message. I actually go to bed at 10, though. Would you mind texting me before then?” [17]
    2. Advertisement
10

He texts you throughout the day.

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/e\/ef\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-10.jpg\/v4-460px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-10.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/e\/ef\/When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-10.jpg\/v4-728px-When-a-Guy-Responds-Quickly-to-Your-Texts-Step-10.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    That means he’s thinking about you during the day and he wants to keep you updated and potentially involved in his life. He doesn’t want to miss out on talking to you. [18] If you’re interested, don’t be afraid to respond quickly to keep up the conversation and show your interest. Break out of the standard “how’s your day?” texts by trying these: [19]
    • “If you could spend a day doing only one thing, what would it be?”
    • “What’s something you like but everyone else hates?”
    • “Pick three words to describe yourself.”
    • “What’s your perfect weekend look like?”
    • “What’s something about yourself you wouldn’t ever want to change?”
    • “Last song you sang out loud?”

Expert Q&A

Ask a Question
200 characters left
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
Submit
      Advertisement

      Video

      Tips

      Submit a Tip
      All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published
      Name
      Please provide your name and last initial
      Submit
      Thanks for submitting a tip for review!

      You Might Also Like

      Virtual Truth or Dare Questions to Keep Things Interesting
      How to
      Respond to a "How Was Your Day?" Text
      10 Ways to Keep a Girl Interested over Text
      DND: What It Means & How to Respond
      How to
      Make a Guy Horny over Text
      How to
      Prank Someone over Text
      How to
      Talk to a Girl by Texting
      "Message Blocking is Active:" What to Do if You Can't Send Texts
      How to
      Make a Girl's Hormones Rise over Text
      How to
      Reply to “What Are You Doing?” over Text: Creative Answers to Sound Fun & Flirty
      11 Texts to Tell a Girl She's Beautiful
      13 Things to Do When a Girl Doesn't Reply to Your Texts
      12 Ways to Make Him Miss You Like Crazy over Text (with Examples)
      How to
      Respond to an "I Miss You" Text
      Advertisement

      References

      1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201605/6-ways-turn-someone-down-politely
      2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-digitally/201806/why-do-we-flirt-text
      3. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/anxiety/text-anxiety
      4. ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_tips_for_reading_emotions_in_text_messages
      5. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/201802/seven-ways-texting-defines-your-relationship
      6. ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
      7. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-we-need-is-love/202007/whos-playing-hard-get-who-s-attracted-it-and-why
      8. ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
      9. ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6214874/
      1. ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/male-body-language/
      2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201403/is-constant-texting-good-or-bad-your-relationship
      3. ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
      4. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/ways-to-accept-yourself
      5. ↑ https://www.regain.us/advice/chat/10-tips-for-understanding-how-guys-text-when-they-like-you/
      6. ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/male-body-language/
      7. ↑ https://www.regain.us/advice/chat/is-it-okay-to-send-goodnight-texts-to-her-if-youre-not-in-a-relationship/
      8. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-psychology-relationships/202010/the-science-flirting-deciphering-subtle-signals
      9. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-digitally/201806/why-do-we-flirt-text
      10. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/45-conversation-starters-to-bolster-your-bond-with-your-friends-and-family

      About This Article

      In other languages
      Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 157,909 times.

      Is this article up to date?

      Advertisement