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If you’re texting your crush or someone you like, you might try to be a little playful. Getting playful and flirty is a great way to build interest and let them know that you like them. We’ve compiled some of the best ways you can keep your conversation going with a little good-natured fun and flirty texts so you’ll never run out of things to say!
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Ugh, I'm getting so flustered with this guy I've been texting lately! It feels like he has all the right things to say and is SO cute about it, and then all my messages just feel so blahhhh. I really like him and want him to stick around, but I need to up my text game ASAP. Please please please teach me the right things to say so he doesn't lose interest.
I think if you are trying to flirt through text messages, it's okay to use emojis here and there. You don't want to overuse them, because that'll come off as too eager. But you do want to use a little bit of an emoji just to show that it's lighthearted and fun. Make sure to avoid boring questions, and make sure you're always moving the conversation forward. You don't want to stick on one topic for too long. Keep the conversations fun and lighthearted so the person is interested to continue the conversation. Show that interest and that common ground and then it'll make the other person excited as well.
Keep it light and keep it fun. Don't go into seduction mode — this could come across really cheesy or too sexual. Try keeping it light and flirty but intelligent at the same time.
If you're a woman texting a guy, this means you're not saying silly things, but you're texting witty comments. These are comments that don't necessarily poke fun at your partner, but comments that show that you're not going to back down, that you're going to hold your ground on a conversation.
If you are a guy and you're texting a woman, try complimenting her, but not to a point where she feels like you're making too much of a focus about her appearance. Follow up compliments with questions about getting to know her, then use the information you learn as a little joke. For instance, if she says, “I'm a little bit of a grandma. I get cold and I don't want to go outside usually in winter,” then you could flip back and say, “Well, good thing about that is I know how to knit. Can I knit you a scarf one day?”
There are always little key points like this that you can pick up on and then use to turn texting into flirty conversation.
If you're a woman texting a guy, this means you're not saying silly things, but you're texting witty comments. These are comments that don't necessarily poke fun at your partner, but comments that show that you're not going to back down, that you're going to hold your ground on a conversation.
If you are a guy and you're texting a woman, try complimenting her, but not to a point where she feels like you're making too much of a focus about her appearance. Follow up compliments with questions about getting to know her, then use the information you learn as a little joke. For instance, if she says, “I'm a little bit of a grandma. I get cold and I don't want to go outside usually in winter,” then you could flip back and say, “Well, good thing about that is I know how to knit. Can I knit you a scarf one day?”
There are always little key points like this that you can pick up on and then use to turn texting into flirty conversation.
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QuestionIs it okay to tease a boy I like over text to get his attention?Cristina Morara is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, Relationship Expert, and the Founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking, a luxury matchmaking service based in Los Angeles that serves clients nationwide and internationally. As a former casting director, Cristina specializes in finding the perfect partner through her exclusive global network and detailed, warm approach. Cristina holds a BA in Communications and Psychology from Villanova University. Stellar Hitch has been featured in the Huffington Post, Chelsea Handler’s Netflix documentary, ABC News, the Tonight Show, Voyage LA, and the Celebrity Perspective.Sure, a little bit of flirty teasing is a fine way to pique his interests! Just make sure that you don't overdo it, and ready your texts carefully before you send them. It's pretty hard to communicate sarcasm or playful teasing over text, so don't send anything that may be misinterpreted.
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QuestionWhat can I do if he occasionally texts me inappropriate things? I want him to like me, but he just goes over the top sometimes.Cristina Morara is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, Relationship Expert, and the Founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking, a luxury matchmaking service based in Los Angeles that serves clients nationwide and internationally. As a former casting director, Cristina specializes in finding the perfect partner through her exclusive global network and detailed, warm approach. Cristina holds a BA in Communications and Psychology from Villanova University. Stellar Hitch has been featured in the Huffington Post, Chelsea Handler’s Netflix documentary, ABC News, the Tonight Show, Voyage LA, and the Celebrity Perspective.Be firm and tell him to stop it with the inappropriate texts. That's it. If he doesn't listen to you on this one, cut contact off entirely. You may not be happy with that, but it's best to avoid people who can't respect your boundaries.
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References
- ↑ https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/single-life/flirting/flirty-texts-examples-of-how-to-flirt-over-text/
- ↑ https://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/g3/flirty-text-message-ideas/?slide=2
- ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/flirty-text-messages-examples#slide-1
- ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=286&v=H9zmwwcJTBk&feature=youtu.be
- ↑ https://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/g3/flirty-text-message-ideas/?slide=6
- ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/flirty-text-messages-examples#slide-4
- ↑ https://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/g3/flirty-text-message-ideas/?slide=25
- ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=203&v=H9zmwwcJTBk&feature=youtu.be
- ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/flirty-text-messages-examples#slide-7
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