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You may have heard the phrase "benefit of the doubt" or been told that you should give people the benefit of the doubt more often, but what exactly does this phrase mean? Giving someone the benefit of the doubt means to believe someone or trust they're a good person, even if you're not really sure what the truth is. Keep reading to learn more about what this phrase means and how it's used.
The Meaning of "Benefit of the Doubt"
The phrase "benefit of the doubt" means to believe something good about someone rather than something bad, even if you aren’t sure of the truth. By giving someone the benefit of the doubt, you're choosing to trust them instead of assuming the worst.
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What does benefit of the doubt mean?
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Giving someone the benefit of the doubt means believing something good about them instead of something bad, even if you’re unsure. By giving them the benefit of the doubt, you're choosing to trust them instead of assuming the worst. For example, if your friend is late meeting you for lunch, you might give them the benefit of the doubt by assuming something important came up rather than assuming they just don't respect your time. Even though you're not 100% sure, you're choosing to see the good in them. [1] X Research source
How to Use the Phrase "Benefit of the Doubt"
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Use “benefit of the doubt” to signal trust in someone or something. If someone says or does something that seems out of character for them, you can choose to believe the reason for their behavior was innocent rather than malicious. It's a great phrase to use when you want to demonstrate that you trust someone (even if you aren't sure of the truth). Here are some examples of the phrase in action:
- "Everyone says she broke my phone on purpose. She's always been a good friend to me, though, so I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt."
- "Henry is consistent and always turns his assignments in on time, so I think we can give him the benefit of the doubt about the missed deadline. It was just a fluke.”
- "That bakery messed up my order last time, but it could have been an honest mistake, so I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt and try ordering from them again."
- "The customer said the package was never delivered, even though the tracking number says it was. Still, I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt and provide a refund this time."
When to Give the Benefit of the Doubt
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Give the benefit of the doubt when you’re unsure of the truth but trust the person. When things don’t go according to plan with someone you trust—plans get canceled, or a phone call is missed, for example—give them the benefit of the doubt instead of jumping to negative conclusions. This can help keep your relationships more positive and supportive. [2] X Research source
- However, if someone is continuously canceling plans, not returning your calls, showing up late, etc., it's okay to feel frustrated and upset. At that point, it's reasonable if you're not willing to give them the benefit of the doubt anymore.
Importance of Giving Benefit of the Doubt
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1Giving the benefit of the doubt may build happier relationships. In a study by the Journal of Happiness Studies, researchers discovered that people who gave others the benefit of the doubt cultivated more positive and trusting relationships than individuals who blamed others for their actions (or lack thereof). [3] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good Magazine Journal published by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, which uses scientific research to promote happier living Go to source
- Similarly, giving the benefit of the doubt is a practice that can help improve your mental well-being by choosing to look for the good in the world instead of the bad or worst-case scenarios. [4] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good Magazine Journal published by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, which uses scientific research to promote happier living Go to source
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2Trust may help you understand the actions and behaviors of others. By giving someone the benefit of the doubt, you’re giving them the chance to explain their version of events. Before jumping to conclusions, try to see the bigger picture. [5] X Research source Ask yourself what may be going on in the person’s life that prevented them from following through on their commitment to you.
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- ↑ https://www.theidioms.com/the-benefit-of-the-doubt/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201810/5-ways-stop-yourself-jumping-conclusions
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_happens_when_you_give_people_the_benefit_of_the_doubt
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_happens_when_you_give_people_the_benefit_of_the_doubt
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201810/5-ways-stop-yourself-jumping-conclusions